Soulmates: True Emotion Mirror compared to the Lovers’ Choice Soulmate*

These are THE BEST TWO soulmate types there is, and it is completely a question of your personality which one you prefer and would call for the ultimate love connection, such as a True Emotion Mirror. The bad news for some is that people who would pick the Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* type are in A GREAT danger to have picked a person who would prefer the True Emotion Mirror type as their True Emotion Mirror, and if that is the case, their relationship is bound to failure.

Why these different types feel so different about what perfect love is?

The Lovers’ Choice Soulmates* are people who are well-adjusted to societal norms and standards, hence the name. They also adjust to each other, their personalities are fluid and very malleable, behaviorally, they are rigid and stuck to societal standards.

True Emotion Mirrors are often poorly adjusted to societal  norms and standards, and they never even attempt to adjust their personalities to other people; they either fit in or they do not. They need to feel that the person they consider their soulmate is the way they are naturally, and they hate the idea of having to adjust to each other. Their personalities are rigid and non-conforming, non-compromising and static while they adjust their behavior as much as they are able without violating their own unique personality.

It is more than common, that Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* -type of people try their hardest to teach a True Emotion Mirror type how to conform, while the True Emotion Mirror type want to teach the Adjusting on how to be more accepting of difference in other people. Their way of thinking about “difference” is very different, however. Where True Emotion Mirrors feel different people should be allowed to exist in peace and harmony but separated from others (they wish to live separately) an Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* types wish to unite all different kinds of people under the same roof – by force is necessary. The Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* type want a close, intimate relationship with EVERYBODY (mostly non-sexual) while the True Emotion Mirror type wish for a close, intimate relationships only with their CHOSEN individuals. This difference in thinking is explained by the fact that the Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* types prefer light hearted connections based on very shallow understanding of the other one’s personality, where a True Emotion Mirrors prefer a DEEP connection and DEEP understanding of their chosen individuals, and feel that the Adjusting types tend not to be able to follow them where they need to go and feel like they are holding them back from the depths of emotion that they wish to explore.

Words I have used for people who prefer the adjusting -method of bonding are the Young Soul*, female-thinkers, and fluid personalities. The people who prefer the True Emotion Mirror approach I have called: the Ravens*, male-thinkers, and solid (rigid) personalities.

Why the Ravens* personalities simply cannot hang out with the Young Soul* personalities (for long)

When a Ravens* personality meets their perfect counterpart when there are no barriers to a union, they feel immense relief, a sensation that finally they can have a conversation on a deep level without having to explain details and core terms and ideas before going deep into the philosophy or theory they are discussing. To the Young Soul* personality this type of conversation doesn’t make sense, it sounds like work and tiring effort, but to a Rigid personality, this is the air they breathe and without it, their relationships, to them, are completely meaningless.

I do not want to put this in too blunt terms, but sometimes I feel saying things bluntly helps to understand things: The Ravens* personalities often feel the Young Soul* personalities are simply too dumb and shallow for a proper, meaningful conversation, and they are TIRED of trying to explain things to them continually, although the Young Soul* enjoy their company because of their vast knowledge and ability to discuss almost anything – but while the Ravens* personalities are attempting to bring the discussion to a deep and meaningful level, the Young Soul* personalities simply want to keep them talking – they don’t care about the content as much as they care about the social interaction. To a Ravens*, this approach to a relationship is absolute insult, and should they get so much as a hint that this was the reason they have been invited to a party: because people love the sound of his voice rather than the content of his message, he would be infuriated because his time was just wasted for absolutely nothing of importance. (The Young Soul* also have a hard time absorbing the information and require constant repetition in order to make facts and ideas make sense to them.)

To a Ravens* personality, a conversation with the Young Soul* personality can be as frustrating as trying to dive with an inflated safety vest on. Can be hilariously fun for a while, but won’t feel like that when everyone around you wholeheartedly agree on one simple fact: the correct way to wear your diving safety vest is to inflate it before going into water, and if you do not have your vest inflated, they will do it for you, and also, insist you will not go diving without taking them (the Young Soul* personality friends of yours) along. The Ravens* personalities would not have any issues with this kind of behaviour as long as they can go diving without an inflated vest, (whatever works for you, man,) but the Young Soul* would insist the Ravens* personalities would not a) go diving without them and b) when diving, they should wear their safety vest fully inflated because that is the way it’s done.

For this reason, the Ravens* personalities NEVER, EVER truly fall in love with the Young Soul* personality, and they can NEVER be True Emotion Mirrors, and why the Young Soul* personalities still find the Ravens* personalities completely OK, albeit frustrating in their insistence of doing things their own way and resisting commitment.

What each soulmate type want out of a relationship?

the Young Soul* personalities want companionship. Someone to share the load with. Someone to have a chit chat while going about their day, someone to keep them distracted and entertained.

the Ravens* personalities want a deep connection; mutual understanding so instant that they can tell without a word what the other one is thinking or feeling, the sensation of reading each other’s minds, being perfectly attuned and in sync. They want a partner to explore the deepest details of each other’s psyche and sexuality, the need to know everything about the other(s). To them, an ideal fist date conversation goes deeper than a psychologist would take them after six months of once-weekly sessions.

And finally; How do each type feel in a perfect soulmate relationship?

Lovers’ Choice Soulmates* (the Young Soul* Personalities)

the Young Soul* Personalities meet someone who is ready and willing to make a commitment. They are of the right gender, about the right age and height, they are about as attractive as each would like and they feel the same way about the importance of having children, the ideal number of them (negotiable), and each has a steady job secured. This is about as much information as they need about each other in order to make a full commitment. To them, finding a partner is simple on one hand, but on the other, there are too many safe-sounding the Ravens* Personalities around who would otherwise be perfect but are unwilling to make a commitment. The Young Soul* personalities only want a commitment, that is all, and after a commitment has been made, they will move onto a perfect relationship.

To them, a commitment means there is no POSSIBILITY of a breakup or a divorce. This, to the Young Soul* personality, is a rational fact that such things occur, but they don’t really understand why they occur. None of the explanations make sense to them, because commitment means you have made a pact against the world and that is all the information that is needed. They love someone because commitment has been made – safety has been agreed upon and both parties love this idea of together forever until death do us part -deal. Lovers’ Choice Soulmates* who have made a full commitment to each other SHOULD get married. Monogamously.

When they have found an Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* who is trusting them enough to mean they truly want a commitment and want to do everything in their power to stay together, they feel safe, content and happy.

Unlike women think, such men DO exist, and there is PLENTY of them. The main problem the Young Soul* personalities have in finding love is that they do not believe a man who wants to make a commitment and outsiders (the Ravens* personalities) cannot understand why anyone would make a commitment to anyone at all, especially as the pair can be as compatible as chalk and cheese. Lovers’ Choice Soulmates* should make a deep eye-contact to their intended and ask them if they want a commitment. If they assure them that they DO WANT NOTHING MORE than a marriage, children and a life together, they should completely trust this promise. However, if they feel the other person is avoiding eye-contact, they uhm and ahm and say: “Yes of course I do..but things are not that simple… Yes I do, but…” This is not the right person – not the RIGHT TYPE of a person. Any hesitation or unwillingness to make a commitment is a sign of a Ravens* personality – their ideal relationship is not a real commitment at all – and therefore they only make commitments out of guilt and external pressure, not because they want to. AVOID.

True Emotion Mirrors (the Ravens* Personalities)

All their lives, the Ravens* personality has felt like the odd one out. They do not fit anywhere nor with anyone, not really. Although they like a lot of people and are interested in people, they rarely find anyone to have a good conversation with, excellent even more rarely, and, to find someone who can follow them to the depths of their own consciousness are a once in a blue moon event… With a True Emotion Mirror, and the fact that they are another the Ravens* personality is a must, yet NOT the only requirement for a True Emotion Mirror connection; they need to feel completely compatible on ALL AREAS OF LIFE and in every detail of their soul; to each of their cells in their body. They neeed to be in perfect understanding intellectually, professionally and sexually, and they scream in delight when the other one understands a sentence they say, FULLY, without pretence or shallow, polite acceptance of it, but out of true JOY of finding someone who UNDERSTANDS what they mean.

They stare into each other’s eyes and the deeper they look, the deeper they feel they can sink, unlike how they are used to; avoiding limitations, over-simplifying things, dumbing things down, explaining big ideas shortly so that they could take the conversation deeper, faster, while finding their partner isn’t following; trying to ignore the fact that where they want to take the conversation the other cannot follow because they simply do not know how to process the information or idea. Now suddenly, with a True Emotion Mirror, whatever they are like, no matter how similar already, this amazing person always manages to unlock yet another aspect to their own personality. They do not only understand each other perfectly, they help each other understand themselves even better than before, and they increase each other’s abilities, talent and intellect, challenge each other into further growth and further achievement, making them even MORE incompatible with anyone else but themselves in the next lifetime. It is easy to see why these people would find themselves with only one highly evolved soulmate, although, multiple are more than possible, especially among males and the rare females who have had a longer time in high education systems and lifetimes spent developing higher cognitive, philosophical and artistic pursuits. Women who are intellectually driven would have a high amount of True Emotion Mirrors due to the fact that most women avoided intellectual pursuits due to the fear of being seen “unfeminine”, and therefore, the educated men would have found the rare few intellectual women attractive; the only ones matching their own intelligence, the ones breaking convention by seeking knowledge not generally available for women out of their own volition and interest toward it.

Due to the much higher education level available for modern women, the men have more women to choose from and bond with than ever before, and existing Spousal Spirit Mirror bonds are being broken. Love, to women, no longer comes easy, without merit as it did in previous generations. Today, it is not enough for a woman to be simply pretty, she has to pack a kick between the ears, as well… Unfortunately, the Ravens* personality males have had to get used to “marrying beneath them” due to the very fact they themselves stopped women from being educated. This can, and does, cause a lot of emotional conflict in current soulmate relationships.

The Ravens* personalities carve their own route into each other’s soul, they make a home in each other, making every moment a screaming excitement to discovery; even if they knew themselves perfectly before… An hour later they have discovered so much more they didn’t know, and this expansion and amazement keeps going; not only in getting to know each other, but also getting to know more about themselves, all the time, every day, until they no longer comprehend words out of old age.

Their relationship causes each other evolve, be challenged, be pushed further and further into being the best possible, most capable individual possible, learning new things and new ideas, and, without a doubt, they wind up changing the world, solving problems.

Their relationship is about being able to connect to another human being on a very deep level because their knowledge base and skill set is perfectly compatible. To compare, where they would normally discuss things on a first grader intellect level, together, they go to professorship level. Of course, because we are talking (highly) intelligent people, they START on a professorship level (with nearly any random the Ravens* personality) and wind up in a very specialized, highly developed level of discussion – no matter what they specialize in. To be fair, some the Ravens* personalities are intellectually less evolved, but they all have a very specific, developed, complex personality and idea on what kind of people they like and are searching for, even though they may have too many areas of expertise to poke a stick at. To make finding a compatible partner even harder, they always feel restricted when they cannot find a person who can match ALL of their abilities at once; either potentially because they are both capable and interested in a new area of interest or by an existing interest in the said area. These are things the Young Soul* personality can rarely follow them further than on an introductory level.

Further, the Ravens* Personalities will connect on a wildly intricate sexual level – the way they have sex is equally complicated to the way they discuss. Every detail counts and makes all the difference. The slightest of details off to them takes the fun out of the… well, not the entire thing, but is, frustrating to say the least. With their True Emotion Mirror, who they have connected with in a previous lifetime, carving a pathway for each other in each other’s psyche, they instinctively know where to go, how to do it, to the last detail. It is easy to understand why people do not believe such unions to be possible, in the light of the rarity of potential partners for a Ravens* personality, in a society where the Young Soul* personalities find love left and right; if only they could trust the existence of commitment due to the Ravens* personalities lack of will for commitment. 😀 (Not knowing how the other type thinks screws us all over! To improve the way we find love in the future, it is important the Ravens* personalities become as aware as possible that love like this exists and there is no reason to settle for less than this – the only thing it takes is removal of guilt, fear and sense of responsibility towards the Young Soul* personalities; they will find what they are looking for, and you can help them by making a match for them, if you like!)

The intellectual matches for the Ravens* personality males can be found in the most obscure of places, to name one; among the prostitutes, who entertained the intellectually and sexually frustrated men. To entertain a civilized, highly educated men in high-end establishments, “the girls” could not appear dumb or unable to follow the gentlemen’s discussion, for that would have been off-putting to them. With all the rules the girls were already breaking, learning intellectual things was hardly the worst idea they ever had. While the men still went home to their devoted wives in the evenings, their intellectual and emotional bond existed with their favorite prostitute – one with as many husbands as she could entertain, and not surprisingly, today, those same girls are “drowning” in True Emotion Mirrors.

God works in mysterious ways, doesn’t he?

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