Spiritual work for soulmates (True Emotion Mirrors)

True Emotion Mirrors (and Faux Precious Soulmates*) (True Emotion Mirrors) are often driven apart by insecurities and guilt, and also not knowing who they (themselves) are. It is recommended that when separated from a loved one, you work on your self and focus on the life lessons that are yours to learn in this life time. It is important that you know that the goal is not to become a whole, complete individual necessarily, but the primary goal is to learn to trust two things: You don’t have to beg for love and you can love without expecting anything in return. Karmic debt is one thing that needs to be cleared, but what that means in all practicality is to settle the karma, which means that you need to detach yourself from any other people who may have an emotional attachment to you that you don’t want, as much as letting go of any attachments you may have on people – your soulmate included – meaning that the way someone else is or chooses to live their lives bears no weight to who you are as a person or what choices you make. You will have to learn to be self-reliant, independent person, who stands on their own two feet. In one word: A grown up.

There are no quick solutions to this process, and even in the best of cases it usually takes any soulmate couple at least a year to get back together, sometimes they’ll never make it back. If your only motivation for doing this is to get back with your lover, you might as well give up now, because that motivation will quickly fade away in sheer frustration – but it is a glorious incentive. You must feel the need to grow and evolve and to live authentically, otherwise you can just give up. I will give you some ideas on where to start off in order of easiness and thus importance. Some of these seem really superficial at a glance, but give it a read and you’ll realise why it’s important.

1. Change your style! Undo your make over. 😉

In the times of celebrity styles and make-over madness you’ll have to be careful not to follow fashion at the expense of disposing of your own style and look in the process. This is the thing: Your soulmate has fallen in love with you ions ago, and when that happened, there was no such beauty enhancements as we do these days. These do not work in your favour even though you might feel that way. This does not mean “go Hamish” by any means, but it means that even when you follow fashion, you still have to have your own unique version of that fashion, one that you choose for yourself. You may well use a stylist if you want, but don’t wear anything you don’t love to wear, and as far as make-up goes, less is more. It would be a good idea, if you can, to go a month without any make-up or grand style choices and see what you will pick back up after you’ve removed yourself from slavery to the fashion gurus. You know what was my first choice when I got back from the fashion mortuary? High stiletto heels, black mascara and black nail polish. 😀 Eventually I returned back to the style I would have worn at 20, after having chosen to “dress my age” for a while… But I stopped using make up almost entirely.

Your soulmate may be completely thrown by a wrong look you have chosen. They may not know who you are, or think that there is something off about you that they can’t figure out what it is. I have looked basically the same for thousands of years, and so have my soulmates – even when we were animals we looked the same. 😉 The fashion changes but the style stays, and you have to be extremely comfortable with what you wear and what it tells people about you. Don’t hide from fashion because you think it’s shallow – it’s a form of self-expression and what you wear tells a story… And as such, also be comfortable with the choice of not having a style at all if that makes you feel good about being in your own skin. If you are drawn to the styles and fashion of a certain era, take ideas from them even if they were completely out of style now. You can always update an old look, and even if other people would think you look absolutely ridiculous, your True Emotion Mirror will love you for your choice of style.

The spiritual part of this comes as follows: Relax, let go of any thoughts you have running in your head, then ask yourself, “what do I wear?” The clothes that your soul chooses should be the starting point of your style choices: the right fashion has to reflect your soul.

2. Learn to go with the flow.

Learn to do things on a whim. Even if you think yourself spontaneous, you can be more so. Every moment that you don’t have to plan ahead is a great moment. Even if you ended up sitting staring at the wall, do that, and allow thoughts to flow instead. If you feel nervous, get up and pace. Think of yourself as an animal who doesn’t have a schedule to keep, image to uphold or guilt to force him to do stuff he doesn’t want to do or stop him from doing stuff he wants to do. (Apply to everything, you are, in fact, an animal as far as spirituality goes.) What do you want to do right now? Do you want to do anything? Do you want to throw paint onto the walls – literally? You don’t need to do whatever you fancy doing, but I insist you revel at the thought of doing it! Allow emotions arise as they do, they are not dangerous. Stop evaluating every thought and feeling of yours on the scale “should feel” and “should not feel”… They are what they are, allow them to come through as they are and simply observe them without judgement.

Also read about Letting go and surrendering to the soul

3. Imagine… (Very important! Don’t ever stop!)

Start day dreaming. Start imagining different life scenarios, from anything from what marvels you could cook for dinner to the house of your dreams, your dream job and the ways in which you would love your soulmate to return to you. This is another form of self-expression, and what you choose to express speaks about who you are (right now). Every time something feels forced or uncomfortable, try and find the perfect way to do what you need to do. In my imagination work I have tons of husbands. The first issue we ran into was how to organise a bedroom when there’s more than two people sharing it. Awkward point of consideration when the men are all straight! It took some time to figure out, and the final form of perfection was somewhat of a surprise! Sort out the details of your future relationship, and ask your soulmate’s soul to join you in this fun; they might do that without you noticing, you’ll simply notice your imagination working on overdrive creating the most fanciful potential futures for you. (Relax, have fun. This is not serious stuff, this is about enjoying yourself.)

Stuff to imagine: Going to work in the morning while your lover stays in bed. What would possibly be exciting enough to drag you onto your feet? How would you propose to your soulmate, even if you are the girl, give this some thought. 🙂 (Break convention.) Go to a family gathering with your soulmate(s). How would they like your lover(s)? If you had another spouse with your soulmate, who would that be? What would your soulmate teach a child about life? If you were asked to do a show at the Community Hall together, what would it be about? (It’s supposed to be fun and entertaining, no lectures about True Emotion Mirrors!) What would you eat together with your soulmate? How would you cook it? And finally: How would you love to touch them and have them touch you?

Keep breaking patterns of societal expectation and follow your heart – use that precious few moments in bed before you fall asleep for these thoughts – go to bed early, and then use the shower times too. Enjoy yourself.

If you, for some reason feel weird about dreaming about your soulmate, allow a new face appear for them. In that case, start thinking of a lover rather than a specific person.

Also, I have a principle I follow in my Imagination work: “I need to have my cake and eat it too”. NO DREAM gets left behind. Each dream is like a child, if you abandon it, you’d be a terrible person! You just have to fit them in. How will you feed every dream you’ve got?

If it makes it easier, imagine being a character in a movie or a book, or how you’d live your next life rather than this one.

Also read What are you subconsciously telling people about your intentions? and Essential law of attraction in one article

4. Stop trying to be any better than you are

soulmates do not return to each other because they are suddenly “spiritual” and “enlightened”, so you can just relax and let that stuff go. We love people for their personalities, their flair, their unique way of being a person, and this is never as much true as with your True Emotion Mirror. Nobody loves your quirks as much as they do. If this means swearing like a sailor, smoking, doing drugs and I don’t know, telling kids to get off your lawn, then do so! You are a fantastic individual, and we all want to meet you – some will not like you for it, but your soulmate will worship the ground you tread on! Your soul is not a perfect peaceful bore, it’s a collection of past life traumas, pet peeves, anger, frustration, love, passion, laughter and bizarre behaviour, and that is what we want to see. That is what THEY want to see. Take yourself as you are; and enjoy yourself as you are. Enjoy yourself and your bad habits! (You wouldn’t love them if they were levitation masters at a monastery either, I take it?)

5. Trust your instincts (Choose the easy option)

Your instincts will guide you towards your goal. Whenever in doubt, do exactly as you want to do rather than what you should do. Remember, the question is not “how good of a person are you” but “who are you”. Every choice we make defines who we are: Even those that we choose because someone told us to; that means we’re slaves. Free yourself. (If you want to. 😉 ) Also realise that your true wish depends on the situation you’re in and you have to follow your highest need. Do you need to be kind to people, but you wish you could slap them? Which is the more important value to you? BOTH are equal in the spiritual sense, (God tends to prefer the latter as it usually seems more authentic), it’s a question what would you do, not what would Jesus do.

6. Learn to break your patterns (be opportunistic)

Make a notice of any patterns you may have. You must learn new things, and you can only learn to do new things if you do stuff you’ve never done before. One of the common ones is to do as you’re told, as mentioned above. Read this post for more gold on this one…

7. Stop hearing what you like to hear and hear what is (nearly) said (face reality)

Especially women (currently) have a special permission to ignore life’s realities, and this permission applies especially to a) love relationships and b) their personalities. It is not socially acceptable to criticise a woman, and that is absolutely destroying golden opportunities for growth and development in women. (That’s why men are spiritually more advanced, but women think of themselves as the enlightened ones. Part of the pattern of hearing what we want to hear. Political correctness is a symptom of this: don’t ever allow anyone to say what they really think of you!! It is, on it’s turn a symptom of deep-seated shame about who and what you are, and that is something you need to work on: why are you ashamed of yourself?)

8. Learn to have fun!!

This is important!! Learn to have fun again! Forget about being ‘proper’, learn being fun! (And about that grown up stuff, it doesn’t mean you can’t have fun, it means you have YOUR KIND of fun with the people YOU CHOOSE.) Whatever you think is fun, entertaining, sexy, vibrant; do that! Energy! Fall in love with being alive, make your world into a heaven on Earth, love it, love yourself, love the people around you (or love to hate them if the case may require!!) Laugh, enjoy, be joyous! Be you, and don’t apologise for it!

And why? Because no sane man would risk heart break for a boring woman walking around burning incense to rid the apartment from evil spirits being terrified of losing him once more if spiritual duties are not adhered to. (I cannot tell you what a turn off new age junk is to most men; there is only a fraction of women who will be loved by their soulmates if they go about their lives like a hippy. It’s just that they’re the people usually writing this stuff up – and nothing wrong with their style, but it is just ONE style.

9. What’s the worst thing that could happen?

Prepare yourself for the first and imagine ahead. This is not negative thinking, this is turning the negative into a sense of having a handle on things. If you can’t face the worst thing that could happen on a conscious level, you admit to yourself to be afraid of it – it’s like jumping off a surface not wanting to see what’s beneath you; rocks or a trampoline… Only a fool will jump to something they are not prepared for, and only a coward buries their head in the sand wishing dangers away and convincing themselves it just won’t happen. If you have considered the worst possible outcomes, the best and anything in between, you will have far more opportunity to be prepared to think on your feet when stuff happens. You may not be able to predict everything, but it won’t hurt to try.

10. Read the Authentic Self -post category

The most IMPORTANT aspect of this website is not identifying the types of soulmates, although it is interesting, what is the bread and butter of this site is the Discovering the True You -category. True Emotion Mirror reunions happens only to those who live from their authentic souls – and therefore even if you haven’t even met your True Emotion Mirror, this is how to fix that problem. 🙂

Bonus: Bookmark this page and return periodically, I think  I’ll have some more tips to come.

That is a pretty good start. You can always combine Tarot cards (I’ve got a Tarot eBook designed for this very purpose), psychic readings and pendulums and the like into this, but don’t forget to work on what those readings tell you. They are not the spiritual work you’re supposed to be doing, they are guiding you to the next lesson on the way.

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