Stop fearing what people say about you, and you’ll be free from the Survivalist*

the Idealists* are all about personal freedom.¹ The choice. The freedom of personal choice. This freedom is limited by people around you. Their financial dominance of you, their criticism, their emotional manipulation of all kinds. There are people who are genuinely trying to protect you from bad choices, even when you’re an adult, and they will limit your freedom. Ironically, some limit your freedom to non-existing to protect you from making a choice that would limit your freedom².

Your freedom depends on your ability to make the friends who share your ideals, and avoid those who don’t

Your freedom depends on making the right friends and cultivating the right soulmate bonds. This means that you will have to allow people who don’t like you to not like you freely. Your need to be liked by everybody is the biggest chain on you. Avoiding shame, guilt, being disliked. However, if you’re nothing but disliked, that won’t make you entirely free, either. You won’t have your pick of friends. You won’t get the job you want, and nobody will be in your corner when you need them. The magic is to be liked by good people. Honest, well-intentioned, freedom-loving people. You need to be liked by people whose values you want to live by, truly… Forget about everyone else and their cancel culture. Their moronic woke-feminist ideas about what a good person should be. Leave people who want personal power and benefit behind.

Granted, when you start pulling in your chain, self-entitled people will resist. The Survivalist* in your life will make it near impossible to break you chains. They don’t want to accept that you are trying to regain your freedom. It will be hard, but you’ll do it. You’ll make alliances with as many similarly thinking sympathetic people as you can. Ignore everyone else and their complaints. Burn a thousand bridges to people you don’t like and build one that matters. Focus on quality, not quantity.

Don’t take jobs that limit your freedom, INCLUDING the freedom of being the sexual being you authentically are. Gay rights are not the only sexual rights that matter. Straight people’s sexuality is also a genuine form of sexuality. Don’t get involved with people, companies, or organizations that try to stifle your sexual freedom, your freedom of speech, expression… Being who you are because something about it offends or threatens them.

But don’t be afraid of losing friends and admirers. Acquired fame. Don’t be an ass-kisser.

Love the people you love without shame or guilt

Love those you love. Don’t be coy about it. Love rich, powerful, beautiful people if that’s how you feel. Love Weinstein and Trump if you feel that way. Love a black guy over a white guy, love a white guy despite a black guy’s sad eyes, and claims that you’re a fucking racist for not liking him. Allow people to slab a fuck ton of negative labels on you and keep going, keep saying things that they don’t want to hear. Do things they don’t want you to do. Fuck people on camera if you feel that way. BURN FUCKING BRIDGES.

Don’t fear bad labels, just make sure you don’t live up to those bad labels. Let them say them, but don’t go out of your way to prove them wrong, because that’s how they manipulate you. Don’t let them put a ring on your nose and lead you with the fear of negative words that are made to describe you for something that doesn’t stick. Make sure you don’t live up to the labels attached to you unless you do. Keep BEING who you are, and eventually, the labels will fall off. Keep being led by the nose, and you’ll wind up being what they want you to be. You’ll be bowing here, kneeling there, kissing as over there, emptying your pockets in the name of charity there, just to prove you are not *a bad word*.

Lose customers, fans, and followers over truth

Lose customers over truth and honesty. GAIN customers, fans, followers, lovers, friends over truth and honesty. Be as kind and lovable as you are, be as brutal and unforgiving as you are. BE HONEST. BE TRUTHFUL. Call Oprah Winfrey³ out on her bullshit even if she launches a smear campaign on your name. Risk losing your reputation in the eyes of people who don’t bother checking the truth behind the rumors about you, who don’t bother asking for your side of the story. Fuck over people to whom you’re nothing but a part of their public image.

BE UNFORGIVING.

Kick these ideals to the curb

Kick bad ideals to the curb: loyalty, obedience, forgiveness. FUCK THAT SHIT. Modesty, self-sacrificing, suffering…

Oh fuck, what fucking purpose is there to suffering?! Don’t love people who want you to suffer to be worthy of their love… Unless you do, of course, for the sake of a boner. If it works for you… Would YOU ever ask someone to suffer before they are WORTHY OF YOUR LOVE?! If not, why do you let them ask you to suffer before you’re worthy of love, it makes no sense! (Admiring people for their resistance is different, mind you, but did you WANT THEM to show resilience or did you just observe it? Did you want the person you love to go through Hell’s fire because you knew they’d be better off for it or did you just want to hear them scream? There’s a difference. A BIG difference.)

Surround yourself with people whose idea of a perfect life is on par with that of yours, and give a big fat kick in the butt of all of those who don’t match up to your ideal of all things awesome.

Forget about obedience and responsibility over needy people

Forget obedience, responsibility (over what is to be considered reasonable), and NEVER give gifts to people who you don’t care about, particularly not with “gestures”. Be aware of how gifts are used in bonding ceremonies you didn’t know you’re taking part in. The other alternative is that you’ve been so friendly toward so many people that nobody has the good sense of thinking they are a special case. Then, you’ve had trouble proving to the special people that they are special, and to the Survivalist* that you’re not desperate for friends, but that’s your choice. If you’ve made that mistake, start fixing it. Be friendly, but not overly friendly. Stop being overly generous toward people who don’t mean the world to you. Generosity simply means there’s always a fucking hungry lazy rat following you around waiting for you to hit a bigger success.

Remember those who were there on your way up – they are very often abusers wearing a cheap neon sign for a halo

Do not fall for people who see you as an investment before you’ve made it big. Who are there for you when you’re down – because that’s when your ass is easy to get into a sling. Do not hold loyalties for things that were meant to put you into a chain from the start.

Don’t think you owe friendship or love to people. You don’t. And even if that was, by some measure, true, you don’t have to be a person who respects that debt. And if you don’t WANT TO BE someone’s friend, you’re not really their friend, are you?

Stop bowing down to your PR agent, your style gurus, your reputation builders, and social media managers. It’s your money to lose, your status to sink. And don’t fucking complain to me about being too famous to be free, when you’ve got 10 million followers you don’t want to piss off because you’re afraid to lose fame over being real… When you could use those 10 million people to build any type of a utopia for yourself that you could possibly want.

1. the Survivalist* are about the personal benefit and power to boss people around. This is fine as long as they play amongst their own kind. ↩

2. to serve them. The Survivalist* see it as a pleasure and privilege to serve the top dog, and if they see themselves as the top dog, they want to “love you” by giving you the privilege of serving the top dog. ↩

3. the biggest name in the media with her own TV talk show, for those two young to remember. Someone who can smear your name in one sitting if she likes. ↩

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