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Adult child abuse: “My forever baby” -ideology and overprotectiveness

This post was published from a draft mode, FYI Your job, as a parent, is to raise children into adults, not to keep your kids as pets. Remember, your kids aren’t your pets. They have a life you gave them, and it doesn’t belong to you. You GAVE THEM life, and it SHOULD be no […]

“Sticking around” and how it can be either the most romantic thing or simple abuse

When you drill down to almost anyone’s ultimate “what you want from OUR relationship”, the answer, always, to a True Emotion Mirror (and to a Precious Soulmate) is “so you’ll stick around. I want you to just stick around!” However, when someone who isn’t either will forcibly, against your true will, push themselves into your […]

Signs of covert abuse you might have taken for love or friendship

I want you to understand, first, that I totally believe in true love and eternal bliss. I believe in love at first sight, and I believe relationships can be truly beautiful, even when so attached and so bonded, that NOTHING WILL EVER break you two apart. Truthfully, I believe that some amazing relationships freak out […]

Obedience: A clear divider between abuse and love

Now, first, Disobedience is not what the Savants* are about, even though the Normal Person* are about obedience. It’s just that the Savants* don’t necessarily obey if they feel what is requested of them is undue, unfair, over-the-top, unnecessary, unlawful, or otherwise morally questionable. They don’t disobey for the sake of disobedience in […]

Love is not a justification for abuse and bad behavior

The Normal Person* have one bad trait above others. The Savants* have their own, but this is the Normal Person*’s failure: They think love justifies abusive behavior. The logic here goes, that “but I love you”, as in “but you know I love you, therefore, why do you care if I beat you up/verbally […]

How Narcissistic Personality Disorder is not really a thing

There are two types of people in the world; the Normal Person* and the Savants*. It depends wholly on which type of a person is diagnosing (or casually judging) another person, as to who gets the diagnosis and who gets to be deemed “healthy”. In reality, neither has a personality disorder, but they are […]

What is love, what feels like love, and what is so close to love it feels just like hate

Love is the situation when you see another person the same way they see themselves, and they see you the same way as you see yourself, and you both love what you see in each other. If you see flaw in each other, you agree on what is a flaw and what is a virtue […]

Disvalidating other’s feelings is not exactly abuse, but…

One of the most common signs of emotional abuse in a relationship is invalidating others’ feelings. This is more than likely not intentional abuse, however, but a difference in the way we communicate. We approach emotionally important topics differently, and what seems like a shut down of communication may be an attempt to say “I’m […]

Strong Feelings (of hate) – is it always a True Emotion Mirror?

There are some people who believe that any strong feelings about a person is a sign of a True Emotion Mirror connection. That is, however, not true. Many people seem to believe that if you hate someone, it’s always because they don’t love you back or because they don’t like you: “I hate you because […]

Why do the Savants* hate rejection so much they give up on a True Emotion Mirror?

The Savants* are often very well-liked people with a high self-confidence and higher than average IQ, which contributes to the feeling of being different and separated from others – why on earth would that make them accept rejection so easily and let go, when the normal reaction is to keep on trying hard, pestering, […]

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