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Random thoughts about narcissistic relationships

Narcissists will always attempt to safe face by blaming all relationship issues on someone else. They fear relationships, and they fear being alone, but when they are once again at the brink of a breakup, they need YOU TO KNOW that IT WAS YOUR FAULT, your ex’s fault, your mother’s fault, maybe your dog’s fault, […]

Don’t worry, we don’t judge you for your failed relationships, dear celebs.

While in the 1950’s, celebrity divorces may have made people gasp in horror, Gen X or anyone younger won’t give a f*** anymore. We get it. Most of our relationships are just as messy these days, just not front-page news. XD

Your relationships are not your job.

Even parenting should be a privilege and a joy, or you’re doing it wrong. NO RELATIONSHIP that you have an option to not have is not a job. This leaves work relationships that are literally a job as jobs, but your personal relationships are all NOT A JOB. They exist to make your life better, […]

Do not have relationships to please God or your parents.

And for the love of God don’t have kids to please someone else. The last thing we need in this world is a bunch of unwanted children for an unwilling parent, if we need more people at all. We’ve got enough people, thanks. Have children if it pleases you. Have relationships if it pleases you. […]

One of the best signs of being in love and secure in a relationship is that you >BOTH< love bickering and arguing.

Bickering and arguing in a relationship is truly NOT GREAT when the relationship isn’t solid. Either both of you avoid arguments or only one of you does, but even if you normally HATE bickering and arguing and “being in a mood” in average relationships, in a secure, love-filled relationship, these things will suddenly feel amusing. […]

Realism in relationships makes you a lot less vulnerable for emotional hurt, but you have to learn to play your way through meaningless drama.

Some people enjoy the drama of emotional hurt. Some people hide behind the drama and enjoy the drama even when the relationship breakup and troubles are real. These people like to “feel big” by replacing real emotions with empty drama because drama is meaningless. Nobody really gets hurt during drama. However, if you see drama […]

How to keep anxious fans waiting as you focus on creating new stuff without publishing too early to satisfy their need?

You have heard of the second album problem, maybe? You know, the next album to publish after hitting fame hard. The pressure is high, and expectations higher. You must prove yourself again, now. As your career goes on, every new album, movie, game, book, painting, maybe video, whatever you’re producing gains a bigger audience – […]

Friendship and relationships between different kinds of people require a lot of empathy – not sympathy.

Sympathy is something people connect through when they are with people kin to themselves. They feel the same. They understand each other effortlessly. Friendship between different kinds of people requires empathy both ways. You must acknowledge your differences and still understand each other, your perspectives, situations, and life goals. “Do unto others as you’d do […]

People with this bonding disorder see other people’s sexual and romantic preferences as a frustrating inconvenience to their own marital plans.

Most nice people have experience with people who have a type of anyone will do -bonding disorder. Most single people are looking to marry eventually. We are all looking for someone special to spend the rest of our lives with. Poly or monogamous, we will and should remain picky about who we will eventually form […]

People with this bonding disorder see other people’s sexual preferences as a frustrating inconvenience to their own marital plans.

Most nice people have experience with people who have a type of anyone will do -bonding disorder. Most single people are looking to marry eventually. We are all looking for someone special to spend the rest of our lives with. Poly or monogamous, we will and should remain picky about who we will eventually form […]

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