Is your level of (in)security in relationships normal?

Posted on Thursday, July 13th, 2017 at 3:14 am in Australia - Last edit on June 13, 2024 Tags: Attachment Styles, Emotional Boundaries, relationships, Trust Issues

As you know, I write for and about a lot of different kinds of people, and the same rules don’t apply to all of them. Some are prone to thinking “if I love you, you should love me because I love you” and some think “I wouldn’t love anyone who loves me…” And everything in […]

Why aren’t our romantic relationships working?

Posted on Monday, April 3rd, 2017 at 4:10 am in Australia - Last edit on August 26, 2024 Tags: Attachment Styles, Emotional Boundaries, relationships, romantic relationships, Trust Issues

We all know that the vast majority of romantic relationships fail. 50% divorce rate and all. Those of us who are in relationships are most likely be gritting our teeth trying to talk ourselves into staying in them, as we are much more likely to be wishing for a quick end to the relationship than […]

Something the Savants* might have a blind spot on in their relationships… (RARE!)

Posted on Friday, March 24th, 2017 at 7:46 pm in Australia - Last edit on June 13, 2024 Tags: Attachment Styles, Emotional Boundaries, Savants*, relationships, Thinker Type, Trust Issues

What the Savants* and the Normal Person* are looking for in a relationship is very different, but what the Savants* have often given up on is the “childishness” of this wish of theirs, and they keep ignoring it thinking “it shouldn’t matter” because it doesn’t matter to the Normal Person*, and it maybe […]

Bonding styles and methods, the Normal Person* thinking and the Savants* thinking

Posted on Sunday, March 12th, 2017 at 7:52 pm in Australia - Last edit on June 13, 2024 Tags: Attachment Styles, Savants*, Thinker Type, Normal Person*

The way the two different thinker types bond is typical to the thinker type, but partially a learned strategy. Some the Savants*, particularly men, have learned the way the Normal Person* form new bonds and relationships, and can be quite good at it, even though that type of bonding wouldn’t be entirely natural to […]

the Normal Person* invest in relationships, the Savants* in individuals

Posted on Thursday, October 27th, 2016 at 5:35 pm in Australia - Last edit on June 13, 2024 Tags: Attachment Styles, Emotional Boundaries, Savants*, relationships, Thinker Type, Trust Issues, Normal Person*

When the Normal Person* offers kindness, friendliness, help, gifts, guidance etc. to another person, they invest in their mutual relationship, whatever their relationship. They think: “I treat you this way, our relationship becomes stronger.” An Savant*, when they show another person kindness or friendliness or is helpful, gives guidance, or gifts, invests in the individual […]

How Good People Wind Up In Abusive Relationships

Posted on Friday, October 7th, 2016 at 3:32 am in Australia - Last edit on April 5, 2025 Tags: Abuse, Attachment Styles, Emotional Boundaries, good people, Narcissism, relationships, Trust Issues

The number one reason why people feel abused in a relationship (as opposed to actually being in an abusive relationship) is the fact that people interpret and express emotions in very different ways. In addition, there are people who, instead of realizing that “you’ve got a problem (ie. we are incompatible), I can’t fix that, […]

Love Relationships for Those with a High Sex Drive

Posted on Friday, September 23rd, 2016 at 5:41 am in Australia - Last edit on August 26, 2024 Tags: Attachment Styles, Emotional Boundaries, love, Love Relationships, relationships, Sex, Sexual Identity, Trust Issues

Those of us who have a very high sex drive tend to feel that we are required to choose between a life of meaningless sex or a permanent love relationship, but that a highly sexual love relationship is simply non-existent, so rare, that there is not even a myth supporting its existence! Let’s just create […]

Sexuality and Poly-relationships and Platonic Gender Preferences

Posted on Friday, July 15th, 2016 at 10:58 am in Australia - Last edit on June 13, 2024 Tags: Attachment Styles, Emotional Boundaries, Love Relationships, Non-Monogamy, relationships, Sexual Identity, sexuality, Soups, Trust Issues

I haven’t even TOUCHED on stuff like cross-dressing, transgender stuff, pan-sexuality and all of that, I am still just talking everyday normal people who go about their days thinking “this is what sex is, and this is what I’m used to”, and I find enough possible type combinations to make anyone want to shoot themselves. […]

True Emotion Mirror bonding – two methods, mixed signals

Posted on Wednesday, June 1st, 2016 at 5:44 pm in Australia - Last edit on June 13, 2024 Tags: Attachment Styles, Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology, Soulmates, True Emotion Mirrors, True Love

There are two main methods that people use to get close to each other. They are a result of a learned behavior from either this lifetime or the previous one, and they can cause problems over several lifetimes between True Emotion Mirrors . Previously I suspected these two methods were about two completely different thinking […]

True Emotion Mirror relationships are extremely fragile before full surrender

Posted on Monday, April 25th, 2016 at 11:09 pm in Australia - Last edit on Tags: Attachment Styles, Emotional Boundaries, Personality Mirror Soulmate Typology, relationships, Soulmates, True Emotion Mirrors, True Love, Trust Issues

Contrary what you might expect, the most amazing of our soul bonds are extremely fragile (and volatile) before both (all) lovers have truly confessed their feelings for another and given each other to one another. This is because if there is any doubt of the other one’s true feelings, their lover cannot and will not […]