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Why you shouldn’t play “hard to get” if you want true love, even if…

They say rubbish like “Treat them mean, keep them keen,” “Don’t appear too eager,” and “Why would he buy the cow if he can get the milk for free?” All of those sayings are absolute fucking GUNK when it comes to finding true love. They’re based on a narcissistic view of relationships, so your value […]

He/She may not be looking for the same kind of “true love” as you are.

Don’t get me wrong; if you’ve found your True Emotion Mirror, even if you’re on different pages right now, it doesn’t mean you’re not in the same book or belong together in the last chapter. However, it is also entirely possible that you are thinking a side character in that book is your main character […]

How do you appreciate true love if that’s all you’ve ever known?

At 17, I wrote in my diary: “What would be so special about true love if it was easy to find.” That was the thought of a young woman who hadn’t found true love yet. The inexperience of it. The answer is “everything!” Everything is special about true love, and the difficulty of finding it […]

If you want to find true love, you have to stop trying to fall in love.

Look. Mostly, people are a bit… Rubbish. You know? I’m stating it too strongly. People are awesome, but not when you TRY and fall in love with one of them. You’ll give too many chances. You brainwash yourself into being in love. You’ll lie to yourself about the virtues of your partner, their intent, their […]

Authenticity and appropriateness; when are you being “authentic” and when are you just being an ass.

My “authenticity” may sound pretentious to you. In my everyday communication, I swear and use “language”. When I’m writing my posts and when I’m doing my YouTube videos, I still use “language”. I also have no intention of stopping. I love swearing, I absolutely love it – it’s weird. That said, these channels are mine, […]

Stop with your insistence and your demands. I don’t care who you are, you aren’t that important.

You are one of 8 billion people. You deserve no extra share. What you’ll get, you will “pay for” by being a nice person. At that, you’re not doing great at the moment. You don’t get to go around in this world without giving anything to anyone except demands and insistence that you deserve the […]

Not “true love”: Pity, compassion, and understanding each other’s loneliness

Everybody defines “true love” differently, but what is definitely not the definition of “true love” for those who seek it is pity, compassion, and understanding of each other’s loneliness. However, this combination of feelings is what most “normal” love relationships are based on. It is simply love for the virtue of being equally pathetic. To […]

Don’t confuse your circumstance (or the people around you) for who you are

There are people who assume that the urge to “accept who you are” means the same thing as “accept your circumstance for what it is” or “accept the company you keep for who you are”. I could NEVER say ANYTHING that stupid and depressing! You are whatever you are. Your circumstance is whatever you are. […]

Being who you are (not) – being (in)authentic

I often use the phrase “to be who you are (not)”. There are people who understand this phrase differently to how I mean it. There are two possible interpretations: Who I am told to be, who I was born to be by my parents’ example and wish. (Role) Who I feel I am, what I […]

Why people looking for true love are NEAR IMPOSSIBLE to coax into making a commitment?

There is an interesting interaction between people who believe in true love (or True Emotion Mirror love) and those who believe in… Marriage. The people who think marriage = true love won’t understand why people looking for true love are nearly impossible to coax into making a commitment to a serious relationship. What they don’t […]

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