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What is a difference between a Narcissist and a Timeless and a Modern thinker?

According to myself, a narcissist is a person who needs to create a false sense of self to cope with their reality. This results in deflecting blame, insensitivity to other people’s views and opinions, and unwillingness to consider other people’s needs as valid (especially if seeing other people’s needs would result in the loss of […]

Normal vs. Narcissistic – Modern and Timeless

Most of my blog posts involve a dysfunctional Modern-Timeless dynamic. However, basically, this dynamic describes a narcissistic reaction (the moral outrage) of the Modern who loves someone who doesn’t love them back. For a Modern, a person who doesn’t return love is seen as “narcissistic,” in layman’s terms. For a Timeless, a person who cannot live […]

Timeless or Modern?

1. Can a person be unhappy or depressed due to serving someone else’s needs but be considered to be living a good life/living right?   2. Is it possible for a person to live a life in a manner that disappoints someone who deeply loves them but still be considered a good person living their […]

The Modern try to minimize their world view to manageable, the Timeless embrace uncertainty.

Whenever Modern feel insecure about their life and management of it, they try to minimize their world to something they feel is manageable in size. This is why the Modern maybe drawn to BDSM, straight jackets, padded rooms, and other limited spaces when feeling distressed, because they’ll find these areas controllable. They don’t HAVE TO […]

the Modern and the Timeless can do the exact same thing for opposite motivations.

The reason why we decide who is modern and who is timeless is because we do and say largely the same thing under completely different motivations and different meanings. It is very difficult to decide who is what by outward behavior. Individually, these behaviors change, too, but we have to learn to cue to the […]

The Timeless, although impressive, do not operate to be admired.

The Timeless are not functioning in order to be admired. They work to serve, and live to enjoy their lives and to help others enjoy theirs. Don’t try to repay them with admiration. Repay them by learning and enjoying yourself – but not at their expense again.

Why the Timeless male thinks and behaves like a mix of the two thinker types.

A the Timeless man who “knows how to treat women” is quite a conundrum to type in terms of thinker type. This is because they have taught themselves to “treat women right,” which, haha, it’s a bit like the “how to train a dog” manual. As the women who are most eagerly looking for commitment […]

“No time wasters” as per the Timeless and the Modern definition.

If you ever see a “no time wasters” or some reference to “time wasters” in a dating profile, it’s more than likely the Modern’s profile, but if a Timeless would write it, they’d mean the complete opposite with it, again, than the Modern does. A the Modern is looking for a monogamous commitment of some […]

Don’t force The the Timeless into a relationship nor The the Modern out of it.

The the Modern feel the need to prove or to be proven that they are “serious” about the relationship by insisting upon it. The the Timeless need you to be the best, most amazing person they can imagine ever winding up with to fall in love with you and to keep a relationship going with […]

the Cat Type Thinkers; match your energy to friendly but not a doormat.

Your biggest problem as a Cat Type Thinkers is likely to be over-compassionate. This doesn’t mean you’re GENUINELY compassionate, but you feel guilty for not being compassionate at times, so you overreact to a feeling of compassion toward someone. Rather, examine the situation. Are you reacting to an adult the same way as you were […]

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