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What is a difference between a Narcissist and a Timeless and a Modern thinker?

According to myself, a narcissist is a person who needs to create a false sense of self to cope with their reality. This results in deflecting blame, insensitivity to other people’s views and opinions, and unwillingness to consider other people’s needs as valid (especially if seeing other people’s needs would result in the loss of […]

Normal vs. Narcissistic – Modern and Timeless

Most of my blog posts involve a dysfunctional Modern-Timeless dynamic. However, basically, this dynamic describes a narcissistic reaction (the moral outrage) of the Modern who loves someone who doesn’t love them back. For a Modern, a person who doesn’t return love is seen as “narcissistic,” in layman’s terms. For a Timeless, a person who cannot live […]

Timeless or Modern?

1. Can a person be unhappy or depressed due to serving someone else’s needs but be considered to be living a good life/living right?   2. Is it possible for a person to live a life in a manner that disappoints someone who deeply loves them but still be considered a good person living their […]

The Modern try to minimize their world view to manageable, the Timeless embrace uncertainty.

Whenever Modern feel insecure about their life and management of it, they try to minimize their world to something they feel is manageable in size. This is why the Modern maybe drawn to BDSM, straight jackets, padded rooms, and other limited spaces when feeling distressed, because they’ll find these areas controllable. They don’t HAVE TO […]

Actions speak louder than words – to the Modern.

The Timeless believe words when they are spoken. They believe actions are deceitful, but words can be more or less trusted. The Modern feel the opposite. Therefore, if you’re Timeless, this post suggest that the time for talking has ended, and it’s time to speak in action. What is the message you want to send? […]

the Modern and the Timeless can do the exact same thing for opposite motivations.

The reason why we decide who is modern and who is timeless is because we do and say largely the same thing under completely different motivations and different meanings. It is very difficult to decide who is what by outward behavior. Individually, these behaviors change, too, but we have to learn to cue to the […]

When a Modern shows sings of regret and submission, they are not about to leave – they’re waiting for new instructions.

When you’ve banged it into the head of a Modern that they don’t know how to be of assistance to you, as in they’ve ruined your life as a Timeless, they’ll show signs of regret and submission to this fact. However, they’re not leaving – they threaten to leave: “OK, I’ll leave.” This is supposed […]

How to (re)direct a Modern (trans) person.

A Modern is basically a trans person. However, in this context, it’s not about gender transitioning only, but basically, a Modern wants to transition into anything they are not (yet). They must be given the idea, however. This often happens when a school teacher points out an option: “You could be a firefighter; you’re so […]

Why coaching the Modern publicly is impossible?

The Modern don’t trust strangers too much. They need to get to know you personally in order to believe you have their best interest at heart. They can also be rather foolish about this; they also believe that if you know them personally, you’ll have their best interest at heart. (Still, they cannot be trusted […]

Flaunting your flaws to the Modern is like flirtation to them.

Be mindful, as a Timeless, the way we try to turn people off us is to flaunt our flaws at them. To the Modern, however, this is like a SOS signal and flirtation in the form of “come and fix me. I trust you to know how to change me into a better person.” If […]

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