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How to turn the tables on an obsessive the Survivalist* -lover?

Think “capture them with love,” “tiny, cute, adorable,” and “you belong to me!” Then, do what you want. Think of them as your new pet hamster. You can do whatever you want, and they need to obay. (I wouldn’t treat a hamster that way tho.) As any reasonable human being, they’ll want out of that […]

the Survivalist* will (attempt to) “kill the former king/queen” before moving on.

Amber Heard did it to Johnny Depp quite famously. I believe it was done to Charles Manson, and a number of other people in #meToo era: To destroy the old crush, or, as I say, the King before moving onto serving another. If another person rejects the Survivalist* who had a “previous king,” they may […]

“No time wasters” as per the Idealist* and the Survivalist* definition.

If you ever see a “no time wasters” or some reference to “time wasters” in a dating profile, it’s more than likely the Survivalist*’s profile, but if a Idealist* would write it, they’d mean the complete opposite with it, again, than the Survivalist* does. A the Survivalist* is looking for a monogamous commitment of some […]

the Survivalist* love through obedience and training.

Obedience, to the Survivalist*, is the practice of love. To a Idealist*, it’s a kink at best and a punishment at worst. When the Survivalist* searches “How do I make someone obey me?” is effectively the same as a Idealist*’ “How do I become a better partner?” “Bossy” or “Obedient” in the Survivalist*’ terms is […]

“Kids” don’t need to be spanked, the Survivalist* -type of kids may need to be, however.

There are two types of people in this world, and these types are in-born. Idealist* kids do not need to be spanked – they know, deep down, it is possible they are not loved and that their parents may even hate them, so they are not going to be testing their boundaries too much. […]

Don’t force The Idealist* into a relationship nor The Survivalist* out of it.

The Survivalist* feel the need to prove or to be proven that they are “serious” about the relationship by insisting upon it. The Idealist* need you to be the best, most amazing person they can imagine ever winding up with to fall in love with you and to keep a relationship going with you. Now, […]

When advising the Survivalist*, don’t use the words “don’t” or “can’t”…

the Survivalist* are very childish people, even as adults. When you advise them with a “don’t” or “you can’t,” they are absolutely going to do just that, just to see what they are missing out on. If you tell them, “Don’t stick your tongue on a frozen iron pole,” and you think they’d fucken listen […]

What does the Survivalist* need to conform to?

Hatersthe Survivalist* are inherently conformist. They still need more people in their soul circles, whereas the Idealist* have more or less closed the doors to new people—or are at least trying to. Where a Idealist* needs no more people to make up for numbers, they’ll only ever let a new Potential True Emotion Mirror in, […]

the Survivalist* attack your uncertainty to force you to accept their way.

the Idealist* must become very aware of the fact that the Survivalist* attacks your uncertainty in a way that pushes you to accept THEIR wish or will. If you are unsure about whether you owe them something, they will be certain on your behalf that you do. Now, tell them this: “I am not certain […]

Permanently ending a relationship of any kind with the Survivalist*

Ending a relationship with the Survivalist* is downright impossible when they have decided that they’re in like Flynn. You will have to negotiate the relationship’s closure and offer a “severance package” to your Lover-thinking* person. You will have to agree to the terms of separation, regardless of what relationship this is. This post is […]

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