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Narcissism according to the Survivalist* vs. The Idealists*

the Survivalist* are dependent on other people and, thus, their approval. Their highest calling in life is to make their same-sex parent proud of them. They believe this to be true for all people. They believe in the unity of a group (usually a family) and hold the ideal of sameness – equality achieved […]

the Survivalist* transition to a Idealists*

There are a few key life lessons to be learned between the Survivalist* and the Idealists*. Both types know and agree that there are unwanted, unlikeable traits in other people. The Survivalist* tend to think their traits are lovely, understandable, sensible, and categorically ‘right.’ Still, the Idealists* feel that first of […]

Why you’ll never be enough for a Idealists* if you’re the Survivalist*.

Before I start, I’ll have to say there IS a possibility that the Survivalist* is enough for a Idealists*, but that’s a love-at-first-sight sort of affair, or “What, you’re interested? Sure,” sort of event. Whatever it’s like, it’s fast, and often too easy and painless for the Survivalist* Thinking comfort levels. With […]

the Survivalist* Thinking communication takes a bit of guess work.

the Survivalist* don’t use language effectively. They tend to communicate in reverse, saying the last thing they actually mean. Therefore, it’s often impossible for a Idealists* to understand what it is that they try to convey. For instance. If your the Survivalist* Thinking parent is yelling at you for the smallest of […]

How to break up with the Survivalist*: Ask them to be your teacher.

the Survivalist* are ALL ABOUT EDUCATION, which is crazy as they sometimes seem to know very little. They have relationships with people who they think can teach them things and who they think can give them the same back. To be fair, this difference is a difference between IQ and knowledge. The gap between […]

the Idealists* fight for the turf, the Survivalist* fight to teach you/to be taught how to be friends with them.

the Survivalist* Thinking family members almost never fight because they’re angry or because they hate you. They fight because they’re concerned and love you and try to educate you. With the Cat Thinking family members, they’re concerned because the Idealists* doesn’t seem to be merging with the family the right way. They will […]

the Survivalist* feel the need to live to your expectation of them.

The trouble with criticizing the Survivalist* is that instead of your critique having a corrective result, they take it as an instruction. “One day, you’re going to kill somebody and wind up in jail, kid!” said to the Survivalist* is like an order. They may not WANT TO kill anybody, but they don’t […]

the Survivalist* collect virtue points and “be there points” while laying a constant guilt trip on you and your friends…

If the Survivalist* has decided they want to be friends with you, there are not many things that can stop them. They are amazingly good at tiring you out, and forcing you to cut your losses; “if it means that much to them, FINE, let’s be friends.” That friendship, obviously, on your side, isn’t […]

the Survivalist* play rough… Very rough.

There is a sort of design flaw in the Survivalist*; they don’t know when play has turned into a war. They basically never truly anger at their friends or people whom they love and admire, but a Idealists* thinks they’re nothing BUT angry all the time. A Cat and the Survivalist* will […]

Teaching and learning – from the Idealists* and the Survivalist*perspective

The Survivalist* may be asking for you to teach them something because they’re flirting; they want you to spend time with them and for one thing to lead to another. The Idealists* will teach you for a sense of duty; they know stuff and feel they owe the knowledge to all of humanity. […]

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