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Marriage and Divorce as per Cat Type Thinking* and Lover-thinking* way

Marriage contracts should be reformatted by the Lover-thinking* and Cat Type Thinking* manner. The couple should be asked to agree before marrying on the terms of the dissolving of the marriage; can one partner file for a divorce alone, or do both partners need to sign the divorce paper, without coercion, to be considered legal? […]

When is it OK to divorce?

If you don’t want to continue a marriage, you don’t need to. I personally am not a huge fan of marriage to begin with, but in the right circumstances, sure, it can be good, but it shouldn’t really be a lock-in thing for many reasons. Just make sure your wife or husband is physically safe […]

Why do some people accept a breakup so easily?

When you “went through a lot together,” reconsider what it was that you went through with them… Did you GO THROUGH things, or did you RATHER put them through a lot of shite FOR YOU? Did they have that SAME bonding experience as you did, or could it be that they rather felt violated, abused, […]

How to break up with the Dog Type Thinker: Ask them to be your teacher.

the Dog Type Thinker are ALL ABOUT EDUCATION, which is crazy as they sometimes seem to know very little. They have relationships with people who they think can teach them things and who they think can give them the same back. To be fair, this difference is a difference between IQ and knowledge. The gap […]

How to break up with a True Emotion Mirror?

I always keep insisting that if you want to break up with a True Emotion Mirror1 (without having the background feeling of “until things are right between us again,”) it’s not a True Emotion Mirror. In other words, nobody wants out of a healthy relationship, so if you want to break up with someone (because […]

Breaking up with someone who “everybody” thinks you should give another chance to.

Sometimes people have a romanticized idea of what your relationships (and friendships) are like for you. Sometimes, the person who you want to break up with loves your relationship so much, that they keep talking about it as this idealized friendship, some movie version of reality that simply doesn’t match up with YOUR idea of […]

Dealing with abandonment and breakup

People who leave you without a second thought may not AT ALL be callous toward your suffering for their leaving, mind you. What they might be feeling, though, is that they wouldn’t be missed anyway if they left. It is not at all given, that people in your life feel wanted in it or that […]

“A childish breakup?”

Oh, who cares? We’re adult enough to deal with childish breakups. 😀 You know, eventually, you get tired of patting people’s heads to deal with something they have probably experienced enough times to have the coping mechanisms in place by now. 😀

Alternative to a flat-out breakup

There are situations when you cannot truly break up with someone. This person may be a family member or a highly dependent the Dog Type Thinkerpartner. In that case, what the Cat Type Thinkers should consider as an alternative to an outright breakup is the redefinition of the role of the Dog Type Thinkerin their […]

Should you stick around to give people endless time to reach closure after a breakup?

I must be a bit of a sucker for this, admittingly. Imagine breaking up with someone, and they keep tugging your sleeve to talk about it, or to understand it better, or to just feel sad together… Should you? This can be a strategy to drag the breakup along for so long, that you forget […]

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