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Helping people get unstuck from a cognitive dissonance; an ego-threat.

Everyone has an idea of self, an ego. Spirituality sometimes talks about “ridding yourself from ego,” which, in real terms, should be phrased as “ridding yourself of FALSE ego” because we’ll always have an ego, regardless of what we do – lest we become completely unaware of our own existence. Our ego consists of things […]

Ego and external signs of being a good person

Everything is a matter of balance. Nothing is good being completely removed from the equation, and when something is uprooted, another end of the spectrum will overtake the other. Ego is no different. It is important to be somewhat detached from external rewards and accolades, but if you go completely without them for a lengthy […]

Moral selfishness when it comes to cheating and sleeping with someone else’s spouse

I am not a big fan of cheating. Personally, I want things clean and out in the open, but there are also other factors to consider. I tend to say: “He’s married, but he’s not THAT married.” Adult people have made commitments to people who are not truly in love with them since marriage was […]

Ego

Ego in psychology means an idea of who you are; what you mean when you say the word “I”. Ego in spiritual texts means a little different thing, and seems to stem from the Young Soul*critisism toward the sapiosexual; someone who identifies with a group criticising a person who self-identifies as an individual. Therefore, in […]

It is not beneficial for your future happiness to try and destroy your intended partner’s self-confidence.

This should go without saying. Still, there are people who attack people they’re interested in to bring them down to their own level. Ironically, these same people can get attacked in the attempt to reject them, which they can interpret as a type of come-on or at least as a sign of interest. It can […]

Confused about gender/sexual identity? (Keeping it simple.)

If you are growing up or grew up at this time in 2020’s it is no wonder if you are a bit confused. I would be, too. The reason for all the confusion is that it’s not permissible for a teacher to use certain materials that would actually add clarity rather than confusion to that […]

Strengthen your ego but don’t hide behind it.

Ego is a word that literally translates as “I.” It means everything you mean when you say the word “I,” and it contains what you believe yourself to be in comparison to others. It is important that you have an ego. You need an understanding of who you are. Otherwise, you’ll be adaptable like molding […]

Please work toward getting the self-confidence you need to do your thing without dragging others into it.

You are perfectly permitted to do whatever you need to do to make yourself happy, but your rights end where you need to start modifying others to fit your needs. You can DENY yourself from others, and they can feel that’s disappointing, but you don’t get to force yourself on other people and their lives, […]

Never underestimate the self-confidence issues of a vain realist.

Vanity is one of the most precious character traits in a person one can find. Often given a bad reputation, vanity drives a person to great heights and to be a perfect person. Perfectionism cannot allow character flaws any more than it allows physical flaws. That, dear reader, is a winner attitude. However, when coupled […]

When you’re picking your sexual identity, imagine you’re reading a menu.

Sometimes, there’s a pressure to “choose the right way of being” as per what is in and what is out, what gives you acceptance and approval, a sense of belonging rather than what actually is authentic for you. For the purpose of Free Spirit Theory, what is important is the authentic way of being, not […]

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