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Men in romantic relationships must learn to WANT STUFF, too.

Men with wants are sexy. Fulfilling a man’s desires is titillating to a straight woman. If a woman feels otherwise, maybe she’s not in the right relationship or even with the right gender, or she has some other issues to work through. I don’t know. For the purpose of this post, that is not our […]

People with intimacy issues will hang onto relationships in which they are not quite wanted.

When you have a fear of intimacy, you run from relationships that are actually available to you and cling to those that are not. That makes the relationship very superficial and thus manageable for someone who has a fear of intimacy. They will never have to measure up to the expectations of a spouse or […]

Is it possible to fix relationships with the “stuck in an elevator” -method?

Many of us believe that it would be the best way to solve any relationship problems to lock the feeding parties into a room until they sort out their differences. I have now been in a simulated situation such as that for over ten years, and yes, some relationships solved within hours, and some have […]

When you stop being ashamed of yourself, you’ll create your own limits and rules.

When you decide to liberate yourself from outside expectations, the problem arises as to where to draw the line. Are you supposed to accept yourself as an ape that poops in public? Are you allowed to put on clothes you like because you fear it maybe inauthentic? There’s the key in that question: Do you […]

Wrong thinking #1: There are winners and losers in romantic relationships.

For as long as you think that love is something you win or lose, you’ll be guaranteed to hurt in relationships. GUARANTEED. You’ll ALWAYS either lose or fear losing. You’ll watch over your shoulder for fitter, more committed competitors, people who are just dying to steal your partner from you. You’ll always be on the […]

the Cat Type Thinkers wish to start new relationships with honesty…

the Cat Type Thinkers have a fixed personality that the Dog Type Thinker try to mould in their children. If a Cat Type Thinkers has been born to a family where there’s a strong the Dog Type Thinker influence, they can feel like they’ve been forced to lie their entire lives just to keep the […]

Men want relationships, too… And women want sex.

Here’s a kicker for a lot of you… Men want relationships and women want sex. The question is, do they want it with you? Everybody wants a relationship with someone who they find romantically and sexually attractive. Otherwise, it makes no sense to be in a relationship. The trouble here is that people who are […]

Introverts dodge unwanted relationships – not all of them.

Relationships with nice people can be really messy. You like them, but you don’t love them, right? You fear losing them, but you don’t really want them around ALL THE TIME, or you don’t want to get too close to them, despite liking them around a lot. When the relationship starts with an expectation of […]

Who wants what in your extended relationships?

Be careful when a friend or parent of your partner tells you that your partner wants you to do this or that “but is too shy to tell you so” or something to the effect. Especially if you KNOW your partner has told you the opposite, don’t believe second-hand information over first-hand information from your […]

Don’t let your ego talk you into the wrong relationships when looking for true love.

If you are consciously looking for your True Emotion Mirror, you will likely start interpreting mild True Emotion Mirror signs for real ones. It’s also true with just a regular “the right one” concept; you want to find it so bad that you’ll start seeing things. Still, you know you don’t like this thing about […]

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