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Flirtation without expectations is very sexy – unfortunately usually targeted at people we’re not that into.

Here’s another one of life’s big mysteries solved. Why do you attract people who you’re not that interested in? I shall tell you: Being nice to someone you’re not really interested is much easier than to be nice to someone you admire and want to like you more. Me, for example, my flirt game with […]

The TrEmoR theory is there to help you decide whether your relationship has hope – not to pose expectations on you.

Yes. True Emotion Mirrors can get separated. They can have their own issues. They can fight. They may seem “unaware” of the connection, but it is absolutely NEVER true, that they feel NOTHING. If they feel nothing, they cannot be your True Emotion Mirror, but whether they’re telling you the truth about it or not, […]

Raise your bar. Raise your expectations. You deserve better.

You don’t have to settle for being loved. You have the right to fall in love, too. Also, you do not need to force yourself to fall in love with someone who you don’t love. Be honest about what you love about people. Go there in your mind. You don’t have to settle for people […]

What are reasonable expectations in a relationship? How much attention? Sex? Together-time?

The purpose of a relationship is to make you feel loved, wanted, cared for, happy, and fulfilled. If those things are not there, the relationship does not fulfill its purpose. What is reasonable is not the question. The question is: is what you are getting enough for you? Another question may be: Is what you […]

If you get upset a lot, you might have to reassess your expectations.

There are few realities that people must accept in order to remain calmer in life. If you have unrealistic expectations of other people, you get disappointed a lot. You feel VIOLATED when people are treating you fairly or quite predictably. For instance… Expecting people to respect your pronouns and having a massive emotional response every […]

Power Move: Give people correct expectations

Let me tell you a story of a lightning-bulb moment I had yesterday. I had a personal website back from 2001 onwards. On the front page, I gave a disclaimer to suggest my posts were potentially triggering and that if you didn’t like it, you could just go back where you came from, right? I […]

Adults who feel pressured to have sex by cultural expectations

You may have heard of adult babies and asexuals, but you might have missed the group of people who are really neither, whose interest in sex is so low that they do not even wish to give themselves a label to explain their disinterest, but who feel like it is abnormal to want sex so much and feel pressured into a sexual template when they form relationships…

Relationship EXPECTATIONS and ideals

The way we all view relationships and enter into relationships thinking everyone agrees on the rules and “realities” of them differs. These following offer some kind of a baseline to what different expectations and idealsĀ and expectations people hold. One person can go between several of these modes during their lifetime, and it depends on where […]

The expectations on, and the role of a man in the current society

To describe how men feel GOING INTO any new relationship based on past experiences with women… My True Emotion Mirror, who has a few failed marriages under his belt, a horde of screaming fans at his feet, plenty of opportunities to find love as it would seem, and an American culture to live in: Male […]