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Do you recognize when you have a knee-jerk reaction to something; feelings so automated you didn’t think to process the trigger?

There are a number of triggers that we’ve been brainwashed to react to automatically, without consideration. “Blasphemy!” “He cheated on me!” “Weddings are/monogamy is so romantic!” “She SAID THAT!” “Ooh, a baby!” “Men can be real women.” I won’t list them all; if you picked this post, consider whether your feelings are yours or a […]

Don’t regulate your emotions or feelings, rather, control your understanding of the situation and enhance self-confidence and self-esteem.

Your feelings and emotions are always right, but you don’t always know what they’re reporting. What is upsetting you is your current understanding of the situation rather than the situation itself. For instance, you’ve decided that any remark about your appearance is an insult to you as a woman. You get an automatic alert when […]

Depression: Don’t seek happiness, seek interesting things and feelings.

Happiness is such a difficult concept to be looking for. Instead, look for interesting things and feelings. Try to find anything interesting to do that gets your brain working. Interesting feelings can come from anywhere, including cutting, right? Just don’t cut because it’s just a little too desperate for a tiny problem like finding interesting […]

You can’t ask someone to change their feelings… How they feel about what is going on.

Imagine being tied down in a dungeon and being tortured. The torturer is angry at you for not enjoying it. This is no BDSM dungeon either; it’s not like your limits are being respected. This is a torture chamber, but the torturer thinks this should be fun for you, too, considering he’s enjoying it so […]

Why do they react if they don’t have feelings for us?

the Dog Type Thinker want to sometimes push your buttons thinking that if they get a reaction, that’s a sign of love. This is very, very simplified of course, and isn’t always true. Sometimes a Cat Type Thinkers picks a fight or purposefully irritates someone, or gets provoked into an argument just so they’ll properly […]

You have the right to your feelings – even if you’re male.

A lot of the time, people fight their feelings, especially the “negative” ones, thinking they need to be oppressed or over-ridden. However, regardless if you’re wrong or right, you have a feeling, right? You get a hunch… You feel… Unpleasant, uncomfortable. Rather than tell yourself not to feel it, explore the feeling. Analyze it to […]

Powerful feelings that manifest negative outcomes.

The Law of the Highest Wish dictates that you always get what you want The Most. There are a few negative feelings that pack a punch to your manifesting feelings: The wish to be proven right, the right to have someone to blame, and the right to complain. To a lot of people, there are […]

Narcissist’s relationship to feelings of guilt, shame, and embarrasment

At the core of narcissistic personality disorder, is the complete inability to cope with feelings of guilt, shame, and embarrassment. They also feel shame for not being perfect or at least for not being the least flawed one they know. This means, that they never admit to being guilty of doing something, and will avoid […]

Men do talk about their feelings under the right conditions.

By my personal experience, men have no trouble talking about their feelings. There are conditions, however, when anyone, man or a woman, starts feeling very closed up. The trouble is women are often very good at creating situations that makes others clamp up. I’ll explain why. For a person to want to share their feelings, […]

“I want all of your individual emotions for myself, then, we’ll have mutual feelings about other things and other people.”

Make or break a relationship. Think of all of your personal relationships along these lines: “We have individual feelings about each other and mutual feelings about other people.” When the mutual feelings don’t match at all, you’ll realize you’re with the wrong person, but when they do, you know you’re with the right one(s). Don’t […]

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