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Why the Normal Person*people attack your weaknesses (to make friends)

the Savants* people, who bond through their strengths and divide by their weaknesses, may not have noticed that the Normal Person* attack each other’s weaknesses in order to point out similarities between them. The conversation should go as follows: – Oh, Helen, look at your stupid brown hair! – What’s that, then, on your […]

How to make friends (as the Normal Person*)

the Normal Person* (or shall I call regular, everyday people with normal-people problems) tend to try and make friends with people who have their life figured out. They may try and do this by trying hard to appear either super confident (without being so) or super insecure, exaggerating their need for a friend. Either or. […]

the Normal Person* like to PROVOKE YOU in order to MAKE FRIENDS.

The Normal Person* and the Savants* make friends very differently. The Normal Person* argue to MAKE friends, the Savants* argue to BREAK friendships (and conversations). Let me first tell you that I USED TO get provoked SO EASILY into arguments. I’d spend days online fuming and arguing with people who I knew would […]

Why do people prefer their Internet friends?

The reason we are born into a certain family and a certain group of real-life friends is somewhat complicated. In many cases, you could say it’s a random occurrence that worked well enough to make it a permanent arrangement. I mean, while a lot of people don’t feel much of a connection to their families […]

Cut out friends who have an unbalanced attitude with your money or your attention.

Even when you’re not very rich or famous (yet), there is one commodity that you ALWAYS have and can give: Your attention. This commodity is also something that a lot of people are trading with: either they reward you with attention for attention (they’ll support you if you’re willing to praise them for the work […]

Do you, as a celebrity, owe your (old) friends and family the perks of fame?

Whether you are famous or still building your career, you will, without a second question, be the target of manipulation attempts. 100% certainty. Some people with personality disorders will feel forced to try to take advantage of your kind heart and wish to be a good person. If you’re not protected by COMMON SENSE, you’ll […]

When your family and friends jeopardise your reputation.

When your family and friends insist “they love you” and simultaneously go around bad-mouthing you or “keeping your reputation untarnished” in ways that they believe are to your benefit and refuse to believe you’ve cut ties with them, what to do? Suppose you were born into some semi-mafia family, where you’re not exactly breaking laws […]

the Normal Person* make friends by sticking around like a bad smell

This post was published from a draft mode, FYI   I write this from a very the Savants* perspective. The way  the Normal Person* make friends, to a Savants*, seems like a page from “a guidebook of how to act like a lunatic”. It makes 0 sense to us, and it is often […]

Why you should not endeavor to “try to be friendly/friends” with people who you don’t really like

We are kind of taught to be accepting and make friends with everybody, and that we should try to broaden our minds and try not to be too prejudicial about who we hang out with, but I’m saying maybe you should be. The thing is, that when you extent that olive branch to someone, they […]

Teaching children (and yourself) how to choose friends

If you have a child that seems popular and have a lot of friends and family who keep loading your toy box with plush toys that you feel are completely unnecessary clutter, here’s a good use for them: Teach your kids how to choose friends with this discussion. Do you want all of those plush […]

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