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If you want to help your friend get together with their TrEmoR, don’t over-sell them.

Reverse the roles. Imagine the friend of someone you have a crush on coming to you constantly to encourage you to talk to or take their friend on a date. They keep talking this guy or girl up, he or she is so special, smart, whatever. Even if all of those things sounded perfect, don’t […]

You shouldn’t think you’re less of a friend if you ALSO have sex.

There are some people who see sexual relationships as “less than” other friendships. To me, however, and I know to a lot of people, the sexual relationship is like Friendship+. Where every other relationship is limited to what is non-sexual, a sexual relationship has no expansion limits. You can be the best of friends AND […]

You don’t need a reason to break off a friendship.

If you don’t want to be a friend to someone, that is all the reason you need. If they were a good friend to you, you would want to be their friend. If you were their friend, you wouldn’t want to not be one. The fact you don’t want to be friends with them means […]

What a Dog Thinker has to do to NOT chase away a child, friend, or other important Cat Thinker

Cat Thinkers will treat you right, with respect and fairness, even if they hate you. They are very used to the feeling of hate, and they mitigate it well. They don’t HAVE TO like you in order to see your worth as a human being. Therefore, when you ask them for help, they will give […]

How do you know someone is your real friend?

We all struggle with this sometimes. One way or another. “Am I supposed to love them because they obviously love me so” or “does that person ignore me even though I love them so?” “Are they here for the stuff and things I do for them or for me?” Richer or poorer. Up or down, […]

Your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates can put you to sleep and start you up again.

If you are feeling depressed or unmotivated, it may be that your True Emotion Mirrors and Precious Soulmates have no idea where you are, how to find you, or that you are even missing them. The remedy to this problem is to start thinking about people and ‘games’ you miss, what you miss, what you […]

Celebrity: use wannabe friends as friend-filters.

As a celebrity, you can feel isolated and barred from the people you want to make friends with and flooded by those you don’t want. The ivory tower can keep many people you miss by your very soul away from you… But there is a solution that cures a couple of problems simultaneously. You’ve got […]

Friendship and relationships between different kinds of people require a lot of empathy – not sympathy.

Sympathy is something people connect through when they are with people kin to themselves. They feel the same. They understand each other effortlessly. Friendship between different kinds of people requires empathy both ways. You must acknowledge your differences and still understand each other, your perspectives, situations, and life goals. “Do unto others as you’d do […]

If they’re a friend, underestimate them, if they’re an enemy, overestimate them.

It’s difficult to know exactly how stupid or smart someone is without knowing them better. By default, it’s good to underestimate a (potential) friend’s intelligence so you can help them to be better rather than to allow them to get hurt and potentially hurt you, too, by sheer stupidity or inexperience. If they’re an enemy, […]

But she’s such a nice girl, she wouldn’t lie about her best friend, now, would she?

Would she? Wouldn’t she? Sir, please note that getting a man is a competition some women cannot win playing fair and square. You see deviousness in beautiful women, but average-looking women, let alone unattractive women, have very few things going for them… And some of them patch the tool kit up with lies about their […]

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