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Messages from Sebastyne as chosen by the Universe.

Do you have a habit of hanging onto false hope?

You might want to check yourself on this point… How faint of a hope do you think is worth hanging onto for dear life? There is a part in my True Emotion Mirror theory that says “there is a tiny, a faint possibility that a highly compatible Trail Companion might turn into a True Emotion […]

The TrEmoR theory is there to help you decide whether your relationship has hope – not to pose expectations on you.

Yes. True Emotion Mirrors can get separated. They can have their own issues. They can fight. They may seem “unaware” of the connection, but it is absolutely NEVER true, that they feel NOTHING. If they feel nothing, they cannot be your True Emotion Mirror, but whether they’re telling you the truth about it or not, […]

A toxic thought: “It is not realistic to assume/think/hope for what I want to happen.”

After all of the years of coaching people, I still succumb to that thought: “It is unrealistic to hope THIS or THAT could be achieved.” I mean… I can entertain the thought of practical physical immortality as a realistic possibility (that aging won’t kill us), still, I cannot think I could completely eliminate women from […]

Why giving false hope (even by playfully flirting) to someone you would never date or love is not nice.

Imagine you’re a celebrity, gorgeous, talented, and amazing. At your fan meeting, you flirt with all the ugly girls or guys, because you think they would NEVER take your flirtation seriously, and there would be no press coverage of “you having found new love” because it is obvious your interest isn’t real, it’s just fun. […]

Killing your own hope.

There are times in one’s life when having hope is not actually healthy. There is a point when you have to set your sights on something new and different, but when should you do it? If you ask me, FORCING yourself (let alone someone else) is never a good idea. Your brain is geared toward […]

Your romantic pessimism is the glimmer of hope to the one you don’t want

Let’s just say this… Some people are walking lie detectors. The problem is, a lie detector cannot tell what is the truth or what is the source of the feeling of “I’m lying” or “there’s an error in the statement”. It simply flags “a lie”. Some people listen to you like this. And then further […]

I hope your life is falling apart right now!

It is difficult to make big changes when everyone depends on you. That is why I hope your life is in absolute shambles right now, and that you’re such a loser nobody in their right mind would ever depend on you.
However, I’ll work with whatever you’ve got. 😉

Why we treat hope as if it was poison?

Have you noticed how quickly you talk yourself out of hoping for something better when you find a flicker of hope ignited in you? How quickly do we start telling ourselves to not trust another person because they seem too good to be true and how quickly we judge before we even see if it was real…

Hope, hopefullness, and the embarrassment of hoping for something that won’t come true

You know how stupid you feel when you catch yourself hoping for something more than what you are used to, don’t you? I used to be a master of this way of thinking. “Don’t worry about that, it won’t happen to you anyway so just never mind it. Just learn to live with what you […]

Soulmate connection: Is this unrequited love or is there hope?

There are a couple of questions to help you decide whether you are holding onto someone who is not your true love or whether you still have hope to have them in your life. Unrequited love can be painful, but is it hopeless? Also, true love doesn’t have to be painful, because emotional pain is […]