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Why pretty much everyone is under constant pressure to change

The two different kinds of thinkers, the Young Soul* and the Old Souls*, each want to protect different things. The Young Soul* want to protect the relationship: “To rescue this relationship, one of us (the odd one out) needs to change and become like others.” The Old Souls* see the individual being more important: “To […]

Do you have to change after engagement or not?

There are two ways to view marriage: We come together because we love each other the way we are and liberate each others’ true selves (wild, untamed). We come together because we love each other enough to give up who we were and become a married couple (a standard). The first group of people belongs […]

How do you convince the Young Soul* you don’t need to change. (Bad advice actually.)

I started drafting a post because I finally made a breakthrough with the Young Soul*. As I was writing this post, I hit a wall again. I decided to publish this anyway because this is freaking interesting how IMPOSSIBLE it is to communicate with the Young Soul*!! The original post the Young Soul* hate change. […]

Relationship priorities, how our priorities change the way we connect

Although helpful on it’s own, this post relates to the profile fields under ‘priorities’. The profiling functions can be found under the navigation label ‘you’, for registered users. Trust me, everyone here has a valid point, but when these opinions collide, a relationship is going to become impossible to keep healthy. Some clashes are inevitable, […]

“It’s their loss” and “they’re just jealous” -people

At the risk of sounding he said she said, I’m going to have to say this. I am sick of hearing people deflect criticism by claiming “they’re just jealous” or “they say it because they are hurting inside” or “they don’t really mean it” and whatever it takes to lull someone back into the belief […]

Change your look to say “I don’t love you” to the Young Soul*

When you are somehow trapped in a relationship with someone without being able to really break it off, one way to tell them that you don’t want them anymore is to start changing your look towards someone who you are actually inspired by. The more drastic the change, the better. We always want to look […]

“You can’t change them against their will” doesn’t mean “manipulate and coerce until they let you change them!”

I have noticed an interesting thinking pattern in… stubborn people. The proud control freaks. The ones who want to have their way no matter what… (The Young Soul*, that is.) They may be completely convinced that they are correct about everything, so whenever someone who enjoys a level of authority says something that contradicts their […]

People wishing to change you into their ideal partner

If you are interested and the member of one of the Glutton groups, I have a sibling post written about this for the people who this is actually about, even in public, here, in case you need to knock some sense into someone you know. If the following makes no sense to you, read that […]

Do you hate change? How to find stability in life:

Every time Facebook changes its layout, there will be tons of groups popping up demanding Facebook to “change it back”! This is a symptom of feeling anguish when things evolve, improve, in other words, but the improvement is overshadowed by the sheer fear of change. Some people feel the need to hang onto stuff and […]

How sexual attitudes changed and will change in the future

For as long as we have been recording our history, sexuality has been at the center of our attention at all times. There has always been the attempt to liberate it and the attempt to suppress it running parallel in our society. Although religion is losing its grip on sexuality, social norms are taking over […]

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