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Messages from Sebastyne as chosen by the Universe.

How to become good at sex?

Stop pretending to be too good for the sex you want. You’re a horny animal. Accept it. Live with it. BE it. Stop lying to yourself and your partners. Stop hiding behind your “knowledge” of sex. It’s not a fucking school exam. It’s an act between HUMANS. Animals. A human female, a human male… And […]

How much to tell your kids about sex and romance?

Dog Type Thinking children need to know the practicalities of sexual relationships. They want to know how they’re conducted, how to get into one, and what is expected of them in a relationship like that. Please teach them to respect other people’s relationship needs by not pursuing relationships with people whose needs they cannot understand. […]

Can sex be your primary connection and it still be a True Emotion Mirror connection?

Yes, it can, and it kinda has to be. It, too, must be mutual, however, even if you have a mutual fetish for “forced” scenarios. But it cannot be your ONLY connection. Our sexuality is the thing that brings people together into a sexual relationship. A romantic/sexual relationship without sex is called a friendship, not […]

If you want a relationship not based on sex, don’t use sex to get it.

Enough said.

You shouldn’t think you’re less of a friend if you ALSO have sex.

There are some people who see sexual relationships as “less than” other friendships. To me, however, and I know to a lot of people, the sexual relationship is like Friendship+. Where every other relationship is limited to what is non-sexual, a sexual relationship has no expansion limits. You can be the best of friends AND […]

How to turn the tables on an obsessive the Modern -lover?

Think “capture them with love,” “tiny, cute, adorable,” and “you belong to me!” Then, do what you want. Think of them as your new pet hamster. You can do whatever you want, and they need to obay. (I wouldn’t treat a hamster that way tho.) As any reasonable human being, they’ll want out of that […]

People who believe nice (and sex) is reserved for friends (and spouse-material) only, think you’re evil if you’re nice with more people.

Just saying. Some people believe you being nice and non-calculative is evil.

How much awareness of your sexuality is fun, and how much of it just spoils the surprise?

There is the problem of consent. It’s all playing it quite safe, even too safe. We should aim for a society that accepts a wound or two in grown-up people rather than trying to molly-coddle everyone into a ball of cotton wool for safe protection at all times. We kinda like things rough at times, […]

Vanity – physical fitness and good looks, living for sex.

When I tried to put my finger on why I was feeling very unhappy in life, I realized at the core of it all was the lack of great sex and, being married at the time, the realization I’d never have an opportunity to find it, if I stayed married. My then-husband is a great […]

Marriage and Divorce as per Cat Type Thinking* and Lover-thinking* way

Marriage contracts should be reformatted by the Lover-thinking* and Cat Type Thinking* manner. The couple should be asked to agree before marrying on the terms of the dissolving of the marriage; can one partner file for a divorce alone, or do both partners need to sign the divorce paper, without coercion, to be considered legal? […]

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