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Don’t assume “female sexuality” equates with “lesbianism”

Lesbians don’t like to have sex with men. They find this idea rather repulsive. This has long been assumed to be the general consensus among women of all sexual orientations, but OBVIOUSLY, it doesn’t apply to heterosexual woman. People, other than straight women, tend to have this idea that “female sexuality” is a brand of […]

How to deal with your other people’s and your family member’s sexuality?

We used to be able to ignore other people’s sexuality with relative certainty. Just look away and pretend it’s not there. With the Internet, it has become more obvious that people we didn’t think had any sexual thoughts at all have an active OnlyFans account or a vibrant social life on Adult Friend Finder or […]

Borderline Lover-Hater?

Can’t decide whether you’re a Timeless or the Modern? Sometimes, when we get used to the opposite type of thinkers, we adopt ideas that seem authentic but actually come from someone else. Therefore, I’ll ask some key questions to decide which camp you actually belong in, even if some of your behaviors would contradict this. […]

No label – no sex!

Here’s an idea: if a grown person cannot put a sexual preference label on themselves, assume, rather that they don’t have preferences, that they don’t have desires AT ALL. If they don’t know what they want, they don’t know what they don’t want, either, and that makes them TOO IMMATURE for sex. Simple as that. […]

When a voice in your head promises your ultimate lover is on his or her way, should you listen?

This is more common than you think, you know. I know a lot of people who have had this experience; their ultimate soul-bond lover or lovers start talking to them telepathically even before they’ve met. There are many ways it ignites, but to summarize, we wind up having almost a 24/7 conversation with someone who […]

Do you feel ridiculous because you want love or sex so much?

It is ridiculous, you know that, to feel ridiculous for wanting love or thinking you’d be hot enough for someone to want to have sex with you? You know it, logically, that you’re quite good enough, but yet, you can’t quite convince your mind it is ridiculous to feel ridiculous, and then you feel a […]

People want fast and easy company as much as they accept easy sex.

People are social beings. We rarely prefer our own company to ANY company at all. It is also true that if someone is a social person, they’ll rather feel that telling someone they don’t even want to hang out with you is such a seriously offensive thing to say that they really find it difficult […]

Is non-committal sex harmful to your psyche?

When I was younger, I was warned a lot about the dangers of non-committal sex. I assume the same warning still goes around. Particularly with women, the assumption is that commitment and permanence is the key to happy sex life, but I do have to, again, point out that what breaks one person makes another. […]

Good sex is rather simple, really.

It is ironic, I must say. The insanely famous men who accompany me in spirit told me this thing, how they struggle to get good sex out of their relationships. You might find that surprising, right? However, when you think of it, it makes perfect sense. Every woman they’re with is putting in their best […]

“I already have a boy/girlfriend” – sex at work place.

The Normal Person* and the Savants* also vary dramatically in how they value their romantic relationships. This becomes very difficult when you have to share a work place with both the Savants* and the Normal Person*. You will never hear a Savants* say “I already have a significant other” to mean “I […]

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