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There are no laws in the Universe that dictate who you should love

Many people take the idea of soulmates (let alone True Emotion Mirrors) to obligate another person to love them. That is not what soulmates are about, I guarantee you. They are the people who you’ve most loved in all of your incarnations, coming back to you. However, if the love goes away, for whatever reason, […]

Narcissists** reverse “show and love” which makes them act wrong

Normally, people associate the process to receiving love/admiration as such: Seek attention -> Put on a show -> Wait for the judge’s deliberation -> uncertain outcome Narcissists** skip a few steps here, and their expectation is as follows: Seek attention -> Receive love. (Attention gained always equals love, without fail.) Their reasoning is the reasoning […]

If you feel you ALWAYS have to HANG ONTO the people you love because otherwise they leave…

Realize this. If you are the kind of person who feels like YOU HAVE TO hang onto people by force and are WILLING TO do so, what you’ll find is that you’ll spend A LOT OF ENERGY on people who don’t truly want to be with you and who are simply looking for a way […]

Staying firm when your ex-x is on their knees begging for your love

I don’t know if you’ve been there, but if you ever wind up in a situation when someone you want to break a relationship with simply cannot accept it but keeps pestering you to come back or not leave them, it is NOT easy to stay firm. However, the fact that most people will eventually […]

Give people you love attention when they’re begging for it

You know how we react to “attention-seekers”. We say: “Oh they’re just doing this for attention. Don’t give them attention, because that’s what they want.” When you think about it, it’s like saying: “Look, she’s just thirsty. Don’t give her water because that’s what she wants.” There is a REASON people want attention, and it […]

“I love you, now you get to be worthy of me” is not real love

This is mainly women’s problem. The way they look at a man tells him, that she’s already done her part: she loves him. What she means by it, is that she loves the idea of a guy of his description doing stuff for her. I realized something rather scary myself the other day. A woman […]

Why is it important to a M8R10 know how to be alone (without friends or love relationships)?

Short and sweet: If you’re a catch, and others agree, they’ll want to… well, catch you. If you’re dependent on having SOMEONE, you won’t stay alone/single for long enough to even FIND someone worthy of you, let alone making it official. (Polyamory might be a good idea.)

They haven’t told me they love me, do they?

While it is certainly possible, that people don’t tell they love someone even if they do, I would never COUNT on someone’s love if they don’t speak of it. There are plenty of people who make an art form out of deluding themselves into thinking they’re loved when they aren’t, and, grant you that, it […]

I accept everybody – unconditionally, without a question. But that is not love.

I may have to make this post personal just to save my own skin in some sense. I am someone who takes it for granted that everybody has the right to be who they authentically are, unconditionally. My entire theory here is based on the acceptance of everybody’s right to be who they are, without […]

How do you know you’re fooling yourself that someone (special) is in love with you?

If you love that person, you will read this entire page without skipping one line. Alright? Don’t be in a hurry now, this is a tiny, small test of your love and devotion to that person. You OWE reading this page as a favor to the one you (claim to) love. Obviously, if you’re on […]

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