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Consent: Even if you’re comfortable with it doesn’t mean they have to be

This is very much a listen, you LGTBQ+ freaks -post. 😉 Your open-mindedness isn’t as much a decision as it is an inborn need to sexually connect with “innovative” partners. Heterosexuality is a thing, you know. CIS-genderism is a thing. Neither is due to close-mindedness, per se, even if there are people who are oppressing […]

You have to say NO to stuff that makes you unhappy.

When you’re a grown-up, you have to become your own parent. You have to know to say no to stuff that’s bad for you, even though you’re legally old enough to take part in it. It’s YOUR responsibility now, and you can also say yes to things that make you happy: things that are good […]

Consent is the king, even as a fan.

If you (are a female and) wonder why you may make people (men and/or women) uncomfortable around you, it may be the fact you don’t know how to admire someone without assuming your admiration of them should lead to sexual intercourse. Look, idols can be admired simply for their talent; sexual organs need not be […]

Consent is not quite enough, to be honest.

Consent is an act of agreeing to and giving permission to another person to do something potentially harmful or unpleasant to oneself, depending on the person’s preferences. Consent can be acquired by dubious means like relentless pressure, nagging, and guilt-tripping. Most often, consent is acquired by relying on the usual, done thing, the expectation. There […]

#MeToo motivation: Quiet wish for a shotgun wedding?

I know we function from past life experiences by instinct. We have developed strategies that then work out for the best. However, what worked back in the 1800’s, no longer works. I started wondering if the surge of unfounded #MeToo claims has something to do with the ease at which women could force a man […]

Saying no to sexual acts: Be willing to be considered a prude or a bad sport #MeToo

Ladies and gentlemen, both young and old, please hear me on this. The way people get coaxed into sexual acts they don’t want to do, (wherever your limit may be) is the fear of being labeled a prude, a goody-two-shoe, or a bad sport. This is the opposite fear of being labeled a slut. Listen […]

The Importance of a Consent to Remain in a Relationship

The Two Types: Commitment Driven approach: “We’ll make a commitment first, THEN we’ll fall in love.” Instinct-Driven approach: “We’ll fall in love first, then we see how deeply we are in love, and after that, we agree we want to stay together forever.” The second type is also difficult, because they can fall in love […]