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The child’s trust in a narcissistic ex spouse.

A narcissist is a child in an adult body. They are not evil any more than a child is evil when scared or fighting to survive on their own in the big, bad world. It is difficult for an adult in an adult body to understand what they are so afraid of, but one of […]

Let’s not normalize narcissism in women.

No, wait, we already have. Let’s denormalize narcissism in women. List of narcissistic traits: (From ChatGPT) Grandiosity – Having an inflated sense of self-importance, feeling superior to others. Preoccupation with success – Constantly thinking about achievements, power, or beauty. Need for admiration – Seeking excessive attention and validation from others. Sense of entitlement – Expecting […]

Asking a narcissist what your girlfriend wants is like asking a 3-year-old.

If you’ve ever asked your 3-year-old for relationship advice, you know that sometimes they can deliver the most poignant, insightful, genius response that you’ve ever heard. They may say it in the most childish way, but it’s SPOT ON. Other times, they’re wonderfully lost and confused. Talking to a narcissist is much the same way. […]

Elitist, perfectionist, not a narcissist.

Many people probably confuse the concepts of elitism and perfectionism with narcissism, a narcissistic personality disorder. They are not the same thing. A person can be an elitist and a narcissist but they can just as well be a non-elitist but a narcissist. It is somewhat impossible to be a perfectionist and a narcissist simultaneously. […]

What is a difference between a Narcissist and a Timeless and a Modern thinker?

According to myself, a narcissist is a person who needs to create a false sense of self to cope with their reality. This results in deflecting blame, insensitivity to other people’s views and opinions, and unwillingness to consider other people’s needs as valid (especially if seeing other people’s needs would result in the loss of […]

Normal vs. Narcissistic – Modern and Timeless

Most of my blog posts involve a dysfunctional Modern-Timeless dynamic. However, basically, this dynamic describes a narcissistic reaction (the moral outrage) of the Modern who loves someone who doesn’t love them back. For a Modern, a person who doesn’t return love is seen as “narcissistic,” in layman’s terms. For a Timeless, a person who cannot live […]

A narcissist is more than happy to lie to themselves on your behalf.

A narcissist wants to imagine their world is perfect. They don’t seem to care that it isn’t; they’ll make believe that no matter how much you seem to hate them, you’d have their back in a pinch and that sort of thing. They can often turn an insult into a compliment and a friendly razz […]

A narcissist may want to be given a permission to become something to make space for themselves to truly be it.

A narcissist tends to want to pretend to be something before they are; fake it ’till you make it, in other words. The problem with this is that they may not know when they’ve actually made it, and how much of their identity is still just “bought” by the audience. At first, you create a […]

Inconsiderate or deliberate? Is this person a narcissistic manipulator?

The Timeless and the Modern think entirely differently. They are like a night and day. Therefore, the Timeless kindness is the opposite of Modern kindness. The Timeless typically suffocates their feelings near the Modern, because if the Timeless speaks their mind, it results into an out-and-out war because the Modern typically doesn’t see how their […]

This world is build on demands of the narcissist.

Once we all stop serving the needs of narcissists in this world, we’ll find ourselves a lot freer. A narcissist wants to uphold a false ego; a flattering view of themselves that they show to themselves much more importantly than other people. Stop providing a narcissistic supply While everybody likes to like themselves, a non-narcissist […]

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