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What to do when someone (who isn’t qualified) tells your friends or lovers that you have a mental disorder (usually narcissistic PD)?

As I start writing this, I have very little idea what to say except that people may say this about you. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is something that a lot of people are worried about, and, Precious Soulmate and True Emotion Mirror relationships resemble it A LOT on the surface. A LOT. Why? Because NPD’s mimic […]

The solution to the problem of narcissism.

This post requires a general understanding of Dog Type Thinking and Cat Type Thinking. All by itself, it sounds a little crazy. 😉 I use the term Young Soul* when I speak of narcissists. The reason being is that narcissism is not what psychology labels it as; it is immaturity of a reincarnation spirit in […]

Most terrible things are done by people who wanted to do the right thing.

Good intention is not a safe space in terms of a good outcome. Most people, I kid you not, are trying to do the right thing, by God, by another person, or to protect their child, you know? All people, I believe, are inherently good. We strive to do the right thing, but “do unto […]

You don’t need to be AFRAID of the things you’re warned about. You’re supposed to be AWARE of them.

When you’re in traffic, you are AWARE that you and your kids might die on this trip. You’re not afraid of it, you’re aware of the dangers, and you drive accordingly. Your awareness of the danger is good for everybody, your fear would be potentially a risk. You know eating sugar might kill you one […]

The fact you’re looking for an excuse to end your relationship is a reason enough.

The fact you’re looking for an excuse to do something is always a good reason to actually do it, but when it comes to voluntary relationships that should make your life feel better to you, too, it is. A relationship is supposed to be symbiotic. You should get what you need to feel better in […]

Don’t worry, you’re not so hot that people will line up to meet your demands against their will. Trust me.

So I just found out that my True Emotion Mirror, who, to me, is the hottest thing in the world, doesn’t talk to me or other women about what he wants from women because he’s afraid women will jump into pleasing him… Successfully. Yes. The dude’s like ripped out of the cover of a romance […]

Don’t ever imply to someone you’re in love with that you don’t want to hear from them.

If someone’s interest in you suddenly went cold… Check your messages. How many times have not answered a message because it wasn’t important? EVERY MESSAGE from your lover is important, asshole. If you imply to someone that you don’t want to hear from them, guess what they’re going to do, especially if they thought you […]

When did it happen?

I’m going to avoid headlines in this post because I don’t want anyone looking over your shoulder to see what you’re reading. Now. If you’re somewhere public or in the view of other people as you see this post, go somewhere else to read it. Somewhere where nobody can see you. This may get rough. […]

The child’s trust in a narcissistic ex spouse.

A narcissist is a child in an adult body. They are not evil any more than a child is evil when scared or fighting to survive on their own in the big, bad world. It is difficult for an adult in an adult body to understand what they are so afraid of, but one of […]

How do you know you’re truly in love.

If you haven’t experienced this, you’ll think I’ve gone crazy. I would have said the same not that long ago. You know you’re in love (even platonically) when you feel that stuff you’d normally never do to a partner or a friend is somewhat funny. Things that are downright abusive now just feel sexy or […]

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