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Narcissistic Balance Sheet

If you are used to dealing with narcissists or are one, you’ll be running a constant balance sheet in your head about who is receiving what and for whatever reason. If you’re not the narcissist, you try to keep the incoming and outgoing even and fair, and err on the side of personal loss. If […]

How to deal with a person who you know to be a bad seed, so to speak?

When you find someone to be a bad person, a narcissist, who cares for nobody except themselves, and you want to get rid of that person, but everyone around you still thinks they’re amazing, how do you do it? Deliberately bad people usually make social contacts around you and themselves to “hold the King (or […]

How do you know a real person from a scammer or a narcissist?

Narcissists are a type of scammers in their everyday lives. Although there is a possibility that someone with everyday morals will become a scammer in an unusual life situation, they’re not all narcissists. Still, an everyday moral person will limit how far they go in their scam, even when they’re in the game. Still, it’s […]

Scam (narcissistic abuse) – sympathy, flattery, promises of great things later if you do this now – no action, no reward.

How do you know somebody is scamming you in one way or another? You are being strung by a bright future that never seems to come. Great promises, no delivery… Usually not even on the small things. The most hooking aspect is the sympathy and flattery; if only you were good enough; “I believe in […]

What to do when someone (who isn’t qualified) tells your friends or lovers that you have a mental disorder (usually narcissistic PD)?

As I start writing this, I have very little idea what to say except that people may say this about you. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is something that a lot of people are worried about, and, Precious Soulmate and True Emotion Mirror relationships resemble it A LOT on the surface. A LOT. Why? Because NPD’s mimic […]

The solution to the problem of narcissism.

This post requires a general understanding of Dog Type Thinking and Cat Type Thinking. All by itself, it sounds a little crazy. 😉 I use the term Survivalist* when I speak of narcissists. The reason being is that narcissism is not what psychology labels it as; it is immaturity of a reincarnation spirit in […]

Most terrible things are done by people who wanted to do the right thing.

Good intention is not a safe space in terms of a good outcome. Most people, I kid you not, are trying to do the right thing, by God, by another person, or to protect their child, you know? All people, I believe, are inherently good. We strive to do the right thing, but “do unto […]

You don’t need to be AFRAID of the things you’re warned about. You’re supposed to be AWARE of them.

When you’re in traffic, you are AWARE that you and your kids might die on this trip. You’re not afraid of it, you’re aware of the dangers, and you drive accordingly. Your awareness of the danger is good for everybody, your fear would be potentially a risk. You know eating sugar might kill you one […]

The fact you’re looking for an excuse to end your relationship is a reason enough.

The fact you’re looking for an excuse to do something is always a good reason to actually do it, but when it comes to voluntary relationships that should make your life feel better to you, too, it is. A relationship is supposed to be symbiotic. You should get what you need to feel better in […]

Don’t worry, you’re not so hot that people will line up to meet your demands against their will. Trust me.

So I just found out that my True Emotion Mirror, who, to me, is the hottest thing in the world, doesn’t talk to me or other women about what he wants from women because he’s afraid women will jump into pleasing him… Successfully. Yes. The dude’s like ripped out of the cover of a romance […]

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