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If you’re trying to impress others (to not lose face) do this.

Play down your own intelligence to boost the ego of an intelligent person There are people who think that smart or talented people are always functioning from full ego and narcissism, and they feel that to make friends with someone like that, they have to fully devote themselves to the worship of their idol’s intelligence. […]

Relationship checklist: Red Flags and Greenlights

There are a few early warning signs to look out for in a new relationship. Some are there from the start, but there’s a danger that all these warnings will actually scare you off your one true love, too, so you will have to know how to compare the feelings involved. So you know, “the […]

How interest and disinterest in developing a certain relationship is interpreted as narcissism.

People are social animals. We are hard-wired to want to make friends and we all have our preferences as to who we want to bond with. However, how we communicate a wish to bond or the wish to move on can create confusion between people who are feeling differently about the situation. There are people […]

Narcissist’s relationship to feelings of guilt, shame, and embarrasment

At the core of narcissistic personality disorder, is the complete inability to cope with feelings of guilt, shame, and embarrassment. They also feel shame for not being perfect or at least for not being the least flawed one they know. This means, that they never admit to being guilty of doing something, and will avoid […]

Narcissism and externalizing shame

Dishonesty in feelings is very human. We all do it up to a point. The logic is about the same with everybody, but the way we handle things is considered narcissistic if we force other people to keep functioning in a manner that allows us to not face our own shame (and guilt, which is […]

Finding Freedom from the Young Soul*

Your True Emotion Mirror or your Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* will love you for your selfishness, not for your obedience. While this rule applies across the board, what the Young Soul* and the Old Souls* consider “sexy selfishness” are opposite things. The Young Soul* want your selfishness hidden from the public but revealed to them, but […]

What others think about a person shouldn’t be the ONLY way you judge a person’s character.

Not all people get along. Sometimes, there’s a ton of bad blood between two people who you know nothing about. We snap at people sometimes for a reason. Particularly family members who don’t get along have had to co-exist in situations that make them crawl on the walls in each other’s presence. It is also […]

When is the last time you’ve actually met a douche of a guy?

I’m not saying that douchebags don’t exist. They do. Some are douches by default; some are douches as a reaction to douche-bag women. The reverse can also be true. However, just try and figure out this math if you’re capable; how many of the men you actually know you’d classify as chauvinistic or “members of […]

True love ignites at first sight, false love by getting attention.

You won’t believe it until it happens – you’ll feel reassured if it already has: true love ignites at first sight, but false love ignites through attention received. Both need attention shown to go somewhere. If your goal is to “just find someone,” this post is not really relevant to you at all, but if […]

How to break delusional narcisim

If you spend time with a narcissist who has a completely delusional self-image the way to break is to basically tell them everything they want to hear and more. Just fortify their self-image and flatter them more. If there is even a slightest chance they’re deceiving others with modesty, make it so that they either […]

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