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Sometimes, Old Souls* are terrified of rejection, utterly romantic, and very keen to form a relationship…

Old Souls*, men especially, often display the Avoidant Attachment Style, or disorder as it’s sometimes named. This is a reaction to the way people react to them, sometimes their parents and even a person with a Secure Attachment Style may show symptoms of the Avoidant Attachment Style. These are terms from the Attachment Theory, which […]

It is tough for any healthy person to consider themselves the man or woman of someone else’s dreams.

When you fall in love with someone, you may think your best way forward is to make sure your loved one knows exactly how much you adore them. How big your feelings are. However, when you hear that told you, you kinda feel… “Oh, they must be high,” or, more to the actual point: “Oh […]

I’d much rather be encouraging.

I wish I could get out of this mode of writing. It seems that no matter what, another annoying topic pops up and I have to address it. I’d much rather write encouraging, loving posts, telling people everything is fine and you’re all loved and cared for, but the truth is… I’d be lying to […]

The meaning of a job isn’t what you do in the 8 hours, it’s what you do with the pay check.

Take it from someone who has been philosophically opposed to getting “a meaningless job” for my entire life. (I’m nearly 49 now; this is how long it took me to overcome this particular philosophical handicap.) The meaning of a job is not in the work itself; it doesn’t matter what you do. The meaning is […]

Why do you love your True Emotion Mirror more than you love your child?

There is some expectation in some people that they get to act like children with their True Emotion Mirrors (and non-related Precious Soulmates) because True Emotion Mirrors should love them more than their child. The reason why your True Emotion Mirror loves you more than they love their child is LARGELY BECAUSE THEY DON’T ACT […]

Let’s not normalize narcissism in women.

No, wait, we already have. Let’s denormalize narcissism in women. List of narcissistic traits: (From ChatGPT) Grandiosity – Having an inflated sense of self-importance, feeling superior to others. Preoccupation with success – Constantly thinking about achievements, power, or beauty. Need for admiration – Seeking excessive attention and validation from others. Sense of entitlement – Expecting […]

Just because someone is emotionally unavailable to you doesn’t mean they’re “an emotionally unavailable person”

I’m just saying. People have every right not to be emotionally available to you even if they have decided to reserve the right to change their mind later. So they may not be sure if they like you *that much* yet, and keep their emotions under a vail… Doesn’t mean they are emotionally unavailable like […]

A person’s pride in themselves can be irrational and deceiving

It is one symptom of narcissism and can exist as a narcissist trait alone, that a person’s pride in themselves is completely or partially irrational. What is easy for a person is often overlooked by them when what they feel they had to stretch for is a source of pride. While that’s understandable and quite […]

How to catch someone of a fantastical tale (lie)?

People with a histrionic personality disorder need to lie to other people in order to appear interesting to them. This is not about money but rather about a deep-seated belief that they are not interesting enough if they stick to the truth. They have a somewhat childish worldview in which they entertain people with a […]

Asking a narcissist what your girlfriend wants is like asking a 3-year-old.

If you’ve ever asked your 3-year-old for relationship advice, you know that sometimes they can deliver the most poignant, insightful, genius response that you’ve ever heard. They may say it in the most childish way, but it’s SPOT ON. Other times, they’re wonderfully lost and confused. Talking to a narcissist is much the same way. […]

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