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Love Bombing or True Love?

You know we love to say nice things to people who we love and that is absolutely natural. When we truly fall in love, we shower that person with praise. We cannot get enough of saying nice things about someone we adore. So how do you know it’s “love bombing” and as such. Do they […]

Random thoughts about narcissistic relationships

Narcissists** will always attempt to safe face by blaming all relationship issues on someone else. They fear relationships, and they fear being alone, but when they are once again at the brink of a breakup, they need YOU TO KNOW that IT WAS YOUR FAULT, your ex’s fault, your mother’s fault, maybe your dog’s fault, […]

Narcissistic coping mechanisms: To never be offended or to be offended all the time.

A narcissist does not want to see themselves in a realistic light. They want to maintain a certain “don’t want to look at it” about it. They have two opposite methods of coping with this wish not to see themselves realistically: to avoid all criticism by not taking anything seriously or taking offense in everything […]

You cannot look in the mirror and look for flaws in others.

I asked my mom to look in the mirror in a spirit conversation. She replied: “You think I am not successful and glamorous like your new friends.” That is MY fault, the way she sees it, isn’t it? To remedy it, I should change my opinion about her. (She’s a little off there, too, but […]

When a Dog Thinker(s)* shows sings of regret and submission, they are not about to leave – they’re waiting for new instructions.

When you’ve banged it into the head of a Dog Thinker(s)* that they don’t know how to be of assistance to you, as in they’ve ruined your life as a Cat Thinker(s)*, they’ll show signs of regret and submission to this fact. However, they’re not leaving – they threaten to leave: “OK, I’ll leave.” This is supposed […]

Narcissists**’ parenting logic: Everything a growing child could possibly need: Status

It is not that a narcissist doesn’t love their child. It’s just that out of all the things in the world, love, joy, pleasure, and kind words included, the only thing they see value in is status. Therefore, they try to help their child to have status and buy the child things that give them […]

Would a person who loves you lie to you?

Short answer: yes. All the time. The fact that someone lies to you is almost automatically a sign of love of some kind rather than disrespect. If they disrespected you, why bother to lie to you? People lie to you because: They fear losing you if they tell you the truth. (Love) Sometimes people believe […]

Narcissistic shopping logic: status

A narcissist buys stuff and befriends people that provide status. No matter how useful, fun, or enjoyable something or someone would be, they cannot see the point of having it or them unless someone high status also has it. (Sometimes, rarely, they can they also predict having something, a friend included, will be a status […]

Stuck in an argument?

Suppose you’re stuck in an argument with someone, and you feel like you’re not quite talking about the same thing or not really getting into the heart of the matter, here’s a clue: A the Cat Thinker(s)* is talking about their EMOTIONS. If they’ve already said everything there is about their emotions, they have nothing else […]

Inspire losers wisely – do not make friends you’re not willing to commit to.

Imagine you see a young family with neglected children and you just feel sorry for them. You can take over their lives and hand-hold them into a better life, but as soon as you think they’re good, they collapse again like a potato sack nobody is holding up. Taking over someone’s lifeike that seems like […]

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