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You can have it, but there are rules.

Nobody can have certain things for free. If you keep asking for a grand prize as a gift, you defeat the whole point of the prize. You can, of course, go get yourself a trophy from a shop, but what does that prove except that you’re a fishin’ narcissist? You can have anything anyone else […]

The allure of the unattainable – are True Emotion Mirrors that?

Yes and no. Some people will absolutely label the unattainable person a True Emotion Mirror, for sure. That isn’t what True Emotion Mirror -description describes, however. That connection will last and renew itself over and over and over. That love can never be fully exhausted. It’s there, it’s permanent, it’s like a bottomless well… In […]

(Online) Scam or a True Emotion Mirror?

I have a bit of a love affair with online dating, I must admit. I find it a romantic idea, that you’ll meet someone you had no way of meeting otherwise through this thing… Meeting of minds so similar, at vast distances, not because you were both raised the same way, but because you both […]

Asking for blind trust and tests of loyalty is not romantic – it’s a scam.

Online or offline, scammers trust on two character traits: Blind trust and loyalty. If you have to PROVE THESE, you’re dealing with a scammer. If you have to BRAVE YOURSELF, it’s a scam. A well-intentioned, empathic person will be more than ready to prove their trustworthiness to you. And that makes them a potential victim […]

What a Young Soul* has to do to NOT chase away a child, friend, or other important Old Soul*

Old Souls* will treat you right, with respect and fairness, even if they hate you. They are very used to the feeling of hate, and they mitigate it well. They don’t HAVE TO like you in order to see your worth as a human being. Therefore, when you ask them for help, they will give […]

What do women want out of a relationship?

There is no such thing as a woman who can speak for all of us if she speaks for herself. “Women” is not a unified group of people. The much better question is, what do you want your woman to be looking for in a relationship? That is a much more relevant, helpful starting point. […]

Narcissism: a performance of a lifetime to an audience of one.

A narcissist is not a bad person. A narcissist is a person who is trying to impress oneself by trying to convince themselves they are ‘mastering life.’ They do this by replacing authentic happiness, love, and joy with a “good-looking” life—or a good-looking lie—often both. The severity of the condition varies dramatically. It can be […]

The Narcissistic spiral – how does a person spiral into narcissism?

There’s a surprising end to this post. I didn’t plan for it. 😉 Start of the cycle Narcissism is a combination of different fears coming together. Fear of abandonment, fear of taking responsibility, fear of not being enough, fear of not being good enough or accepted. Narcissism is often said to be a condition of […]

What is the real danger of the Free Spirit Theory?

The collective name of all of my theories is the Free Spirit Theory, in case you didn’t know.1 The Free Spirit Theory gets its name from the idea of liberating all people to be their authentic selves so that we can live peacefully as nobody is pushed into a box and forced to live an […]

It’s not that the narcissist doesn’t love you, it’s that they take love as a weakness.

Narcissists** do love you. It’s not at all that they don’t love you; in fact, they do love you desperately, genuinely, and authentically. The problem is that they don’t have good coping mechanisms for that love. This applies to narcissistic parents, as well. They view love as a weakness; they feel powerless in that feeling. […]

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