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“Brainy” people feel alone even if loved with a full heart.

Brainy people, which are not only smart people but people who enjoy thinking, analyzing, and pondering on things, often feel alone in their own families. They have a special need to share their insights and have intellectual interaction with other people, but it is possible they have nobody like that in their family. As a […]

When dealing with a troublesome narcissist, learn to remove their options from them.

A narcissist (a troublesome the Survivalist*) is horrible at making choices. They will always want you to make choices for them, and any IF is going to always lead to the worst of the options. You need to know that the Survivalist* will treat an “if” the same way as an “or”. What […]

How a narcissist thinks, and how you can BREAK the BUBBLE and HEAL them

Granted, they say you can’t cure narcissism, and it is certainly not easy, but there is hope, especially with one you cannot get away from someone like a family member. You must understand their thinking before you can help them break free from their own illusions, though. And, you may need some compassion toward a […]

“Who will break first” – rivalry over the love confession.

There are True Emotion Mirrors who will deny loving each other as a form of lover’s game of chase. The idea is that although the love is mutually agreed to be obvious, they’ll both… or the other… play hard to get, pretending they’re not in love even though they both (should) know they’re only pretending. […]

Don’t assume you know or understand the first thing about the people you love.

This is not my best post ever. Still, my guides have been bugging me for it, so… Here it is in it’s raw format. Maybe this version popped up because it offers you something that the more polished version won’t. I’m sure there’ll be one eventually. (This seems to change topics half-way through… But there’s […]

the narcissist’s instant “counterattack” if you criticize them in any way…

Imagine (or remember) a situation when you’ve accidentally caused someone trouble or mild grievance. Maybe you accidentally sent a group email with everybody’s addresses visible to all recipients or caused a 50-cent difference in the cash register at the end of the day at work. A minor error that anyone could have done, you see? […]

Be careful who you befriend: You’re not making friends for yourself only, but everyone who you will ever love in the future, too.

It is not a good piece of advice to keep your friends close and your enemies even closer – unless you’re the Survivalist*. Then, you practically have no other choice. An Idealist* must know, that if the Survivalist* wants your friendship, it’s possibly because they consider you that enemy. That said, your […]

How do you know somebody is lying to you?

In short, you don’t. You’ll only be certain once you are certain. Jumping into the “I believe nobody” is very short-sighted, as grouping people into liars and truth tellers based on their social status, job, or nationality will not help you spot the liars. Politicians are not liars, even if some politicians lie. Women are […]

To chase or not to chase a True Emotion Mirror

The hardest part about True Emotion Mirror relationships is to allow yourself to be yourself and follow your instinct instead of instructions from others. This is the most important relationship you have experienced, and you don’t want to fuck it up being overly enthusiastic,  right? I am not sure you have to chase your True […]

You can’t ask someone to change their feelings… How they feel about what is going on.

Imagine being tied down in a dungeon and being tortured. The torturer is angry at you for not enjoying it. This is no BDSM dungeon either; it’s not like your limits are being respected. This is a torture chamber, but the torturer thinks this should be fun for you, too, considering he’s enjoying it so […]

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