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Messages from Sebastyne as chosen by the Universe.

Why is reality so important to some people, when they could just lie to themselves a little?

People who believe in their capacity to create a beautiful, happy reality, even a perfect life in the very real world, will prefer reality to telling lies to themselves. People who don’t see how they could possibly create the life they actually want in reality are very likely to prefer play-pretend to reality. Obviously. If […]

How true manipulation works: It’s not coercion, it’s giving you a false perception of reality itself.

Have you ever been in a situation where two children are playing, and suddenly one lashes out at the other, screaming, “STOP IT!” Now, you didn’t see anything, and the kid who got hit feigns innocence and starts crying. And, if you didn’t know CHILDREN do shit to irritate and poke the other one until they […]

Realism in relationships makes you a lot less vulnerable for emotional hurt, but you have to learn to play your way through meaningless drama.

Some people enjoy the drama of emotional hurt. Some people hide behind the drama and enjoy the drama even when the relationship breakup and troubles are real. These people like to “feel big” by replacing real emotions with empty drama because drama is meaningless. Nobody really gets hurt during drama. However, if you see drama […]

People’s first psychological motivation is to retain their idea of reality intact.

Imagine there are no mirrors. There has never been any mirrors. You cannot tell what you look like. The only way to know what you look like is by the reaction of other people; do they find you attractive, and how attractive are the people who find you attractive? Your only way to observe who […]

Keeping the faith is building it on reality.

To have strong faith, you have to build it on what you can confirm to be a fact or observable to yourself. You shouldn’t feel compelled to decide to believe something that you have no proof of. Blind faith is for the foolish. An intellectual person builds faith on belief, belief in facts, evidence, personal […]

Be aware of what you wish for – and don’t let your pessimism pass for realism.

This is the message: What you want is what you fear to believe is real. Others find it easy to convince you that what you wish it was like is a pipe dream you need to give up on. If you just make yourself believe what you can have is the only thing you can […]

How people hang on and protect their idea of reality

There are people who have a hard time facing reality for what it is. They kind of believe, that whatever they believe is so. In a sense, it is true; if you simply refuse to see the reality for what it is, then, your worldview remains untouched. You may be told that your husband or […]

Allow yourself to face reality and your true feelings; reduce fear and worry by feeling it

We are often told “don’t worry” and “fear not”. I say allow yourself to worry, allow yourself to fear. We’re being told “don’t waste your time on anger”, I say be angry when you’re angry. Feel those feelings freely, allow yourself to feel what is true. Face reality as it is, and don’t forget that […]

How is our reality constructed? How much is “an illusion”, what is God’s role?

In a dream state, I do stuff I would never do in reality. I go along with some lesbian action. Girl-on-girl. I am given the template of what I’m supposed to feel, but I feel like taking a bath in a body temperature water. “Whatever”. In another dream, another girl, another situation, she wants to play […]

Reality, truth, and spirituality

People tend to put the words “reality” and “spirituality” to mean the duality of our existence. One is “true” the other “an illusion”. In this view, the reality is an illusion, and spirituality is a truth. I do not believe that at all. I see the reality being a combination of the two, not opponents […]

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