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The purpose of communication is to make things better, not to find the person to blame.

There are people who communicate in order to find the scape goat. The person to blame. The real reason for communication is to find out what was and was not intended to be said, and how everyone feels in any given situation. It is NOT EASY to know what people feel and see from their […]

the Dog Type Thinker Thinking communication takes a bit of guess work.

the Dog Type Thinker don’t use language effectively. They tend to communicate in reverse, saying the last thing they actually mean. Therefore, it’s often impossible for a Cat Type Thinkers to understand what it is that they try to convey. For instance. If your the Dog Type Thinker Thinking parent is yelling at you for […]

The True Emotion Mirror conflict – how all of your relationship values can turn on their head.

Meeting your True Emotion Mirror can make you feel things you never thought you would. Ownership, jealousy, anger on top of all that love that you never associated being linked to love. You know other people feel those things for people whom they should never even consider theirs, and you may feel shocked at your […]

Is communication going to solve all your relationship problems? No. Sometimes it makes matters worse.

One would assume that explaining what you need from people is simple enough to do. However, the truth is that some people see the world from such opposite perspectives that explaining a simple thing may take you a lifetime, and it’s simply not worth the effort. Personally, I spent 25 of my adult years trying […]

True Emotion Mirrors and male/female roles

Some of you might still be hung up on gender roles and stereotypes. 😉 I have a sneaking suspicion on that, considering there are people willing to have their genitals mutilated on the grounds of not fitting a stereotype. (I’m being flippant, I know, but… Heck I don’t get what’s a big deal about being […]

Must Read: Relationship dynamics when one person is looking for “true love”

I am going to go on at length here, as this is going to explain so much of what you are experiencing – whatever it is that you are going through – that I cannot skip too many parts here. This explains our ’emotional reality’, and, even as this is going to be a large […]

The importance of communication, why cold is not necessarily cold

The player. Envision, please. Can you see him? He blocks his emotions away from others because he is too sensitive to everything around him. He plays because he needs love so much, or has convinced himself that his romanticism is wasted and that it would be difficult to find a girl who’d actually love him […]

Communication: Helping a body-focused person talk about feelings

We all want to be understood. We need our emotions to be acknowledged, but sometimes no matter how much time you spend talking about your feelings, they seem to go unnoticed. However, some of us use language that comes out as an accusation rather than a report, and some understand reports of emotions as accusations. […]

Male- and Female communication styles; what are we missing?

Although generally speaking, the stereotypical naming of these two communication styles helps you understand what kind of a personality we are talking about, these styles are not gender specific. Men can be fethe Cat Type Thinkers as well as women can be the Cat Type Thinkers, but for the purpose of underlining the differences in […]

Polygyny and Polyandry relationship dynamics

Polyandry is the practice of forming a marriage, or, in the current society, a marriage-like relationship between one woman and several men. Polygyny is the opposite, often erroneously called polygamy, which is a generic term for a marriage between multiple people and bears no assumption to the gender ratios. There are more ways to form […]

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