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Men in romantic relationships must learn to WANT STUFF, too.

Men with wants are sexy. Fulfilling a man’s desires is titillating to a straight woman. If a woman feels otherwise, maybe she’s not in the right relationship or even with the right gender, or she has some other issues to work through. I don’t know. For the purpose of this post, that is not our […]

Wrong thinking #1: There are winners and losers in romantic relationships.

For as long as you think that love is something you win or lose, you’ll be guaranteed to hurt in relationships. GUARANTEED. You’ll ALWAYS either lose or fear losing. You’ll watch over your shoulder for fitter, more committed competitors, people who are just dying to steal your partner from you. You’ll always be on the […]

Romantic relationships with no sex involved – is that supposed to be enough?

In the following, I am in no way suggesting that people should always do relationships the same way. Not at all. Everyone who has listened to me for five seconds should know this. However, what people seem to insist on having the right to do is to dictate the rules of the relationship THEY WANT […]

Why aren’t our romantic relationships working?

We all know that the vast majority of romantic relationships fail. 50% divorce rate and all. Those of us who are in relationships are most likely be gritting our teeth trying to talk ourselves into staying in them, as we are much more likely to be wishing for a quick end to the relationship than […]