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If it’s embarrassment you fear…

Embarrassment, albeit humans’ greatest fear, is not a real danger. It’s just an emotion. However, there’s a question there: Are you worried about embarrassing yourself in front of people who really don’t need to hear or see your real self, as it is of no concern of theirs? Like taking your clothes off in front […]

How much awareness of your sexuality is fun, and how much of it just spoils the surprise?

There is the problem of consent. It’s all playing it quite safe, even too safe. We should aim for a society that accepts a wound or two in grown-up people rather than trying to molly-coddle everyone into a ball of cotton wool for safe protection at all times. We kinda like things rough at times, […]

Fear of saying the wrong thing; You need an editor -problem.

As we are moving more and more toward a society where everybody is a celebrity, more and more people will be relying on an editor to filter their expressions in the media. I am not at all convinced that this is a good thing. People have died for freedom of speech and self-expression, and now […]

Interpreting anxiety over fear of failing to provide as feeling of love.

We are all somewhat emotionally telepathic. We feel what others feel, but our interpretation of those feelings may be off, especially if we haven’t felt those feelings ourselves. (In addition, we may like or dislike the same feeling, even though we feel it the same way, like homosexual attraction/vibe, for instance.) However, one emotion that […]

Polyandrous men can feel a type of… Fear of hidden female-to-female-attraction.

Naturally polyandrous (MFM) men are not particularly turned on or excited about the lesbian fantasy that both polygynandrous (MFMF) and polygynous (FMF) men can harbor. These two latter types connect to the poly fantasy that involves several women. Still, a polyandrous man doesn’t really enjoy that female bonding or female attraction any more than polygynous […]

What to do with the nameless fear?

Find a name for it. Fear requires your focus. It’s an alarm system trying to curb it would be like hearing the fire alarm go off and decide to sit down for Netflix and pop corn. Find out why you feel fear, then fix it. Maybe it’s just a tree tapping your window in the […]

Why do women who don’t fear men fear men?

Women who know anything about smart men know they have standards. Men know stuff. The chances of you making an absolute goose of yourself talking to a smart man are super high. Not a fun thought. Eww. Women love smart men, but fuuuk they’re scary. 😀

True Emotion Mirror runner – fear of embarrassment

When True Emotion Mirrors meet, the start of this relationship is often blissful. However, even the smallest of bumps can derail it beyond repair if you don’t know how to fix it. The BEST RULE to follow for your own end is “do not run”, no matter HOW MUCH YOU WANT TO throw in the […]

Fear, money, sexual assaults, worst case scenarios

Most fear in general is irrational and based on the fact that you haven’t thought things through. Many people’s sense of safety is truly just cluelessness and ignorance. There’s a difference in being fearless and clueless. Then, there’s the state of trying to return to the state of cluelessness in order to restore fearlessness. You […]

The fear of vanity.

Most perfectionists have a fear of vanity. We’ve been cautioned against it, because, as always, vanity gets in the way of other people’s wishes regarding your love for them. “He’s so vain; he only sees himself and doesn’t give me a time of his day.” However, he enjoys his mirror image; he loves to treat […]

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