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It is not beneficial for your future happiness to try and destroy your intended partner’s self-confidence.

This should go without saying. Still, there are people who attack people they’re interested in to bring them down to their own level. Ironically, these same people can get attacked in the attempt to reject them, which they can interpret as a type of come-on or at least as a sign of interest. It can […]

Please work toward getting the self-confidence you need to do your thing without dragging others into it.

You are perfectly permitted to do whatever you need to do to make yourself happy, but your rights end where you need to start modifying others to fit your needs. You can DENY yourself from others, and they can feel that’s disappointing, but you don’t get to force yourself on other people and their lives, […]

Never underestimate the self-confidence issues of a vain realist.

Vanity is one of the most precious character traits in a person one can find. Often given a bad reputation, vanity drives a person to great heights and to be a perfect person. Perfectionism cannot allow character flaws any more than it allows physical flaws. That, dear reader, is a winner attitude. However, when coupled […]

Where does self-confidence come from?

Self-confidence comes from feeling that you know and like who you are. You like who you are, and you know nobody in this world has the power to change who you are against your will. You like being you and know you are secure in your right to be who you are. Self-confidence does not […]

What is the line between narcissism and high self-esteem?

People often confuse being self-satisfied with being narcissistic. This is not truly a good measure to say whether someone is narcissistic or not. However, there is a link between the two: a narcissistic person has an unrealistically positive self-image, and they believe, unrealistically, that others admire them over something that the others might never feel […]

Abuser logic: “I need you not to have the self-confidence to leave me.”

The reason why abusers try to tear down your self-confidence from up close is so they’ll make it so you won’t have the self-confidence to leave them. They justify this by telling themselves that “deep down they love you” and that “they’ll have you back in a pinch.” But what “the pinch” is or might […]

Loyalty is a value that shouldn’t be held to such a high regard.

Think about it. Loyalty is the action of reversing a natural choice of company and alliance. Loyalty kicks in when you no longer love, want, or desire that person or their company. People who DEMAND loyalty from their friends and lovers are probably people who don’t think they have the energy to stay a good […]

The Old Souls* and the Young Soul* define “respect” differently.

When the Young Soul*asks for respect, they basically mean the exact opposite of what a Old Souls* means. Self-respect is similarly the opposite for them: the Young Soul* respect: “Consider me worthy of your company and care.” the Young Soul* self-respect: “I demand that you will not reject me because I am a worthy individual […]

I value people who do their own thinking.

In case you were wondering: I value people who do their own thinking and use my material as a guide; something to push the thinking process into motion (again). I do not value people who display trust and loyalty by shutting off their own brains and following me blindly like a moron. I’m not Jesus, […]

Definitions of self-respect.

Tick the right answers. (Some are wrong.) I hold myself to a standard that I am proud of and won’t allow anyone to drag me down from without a very good reason. I will not allow others to violate myself, my rights, or my values within reason. I will make sure others kneel before me. […]

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