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Messages from Sebastyne as chosen by the Universe.

How to become good at sex?

Stop pretending to be too good for the sex you want. You’re a horny animal. Accept it. Live with it. BE it. Stop lying to yourself and your partners. Stop hiding behind your “knowledge” of sex. It’s not a fucking school exam. It’s an act between HUMANS. Animals. A human female, a human male… And […]

How much to tell your kids about sex and romance?

Dog Type Thinking children need to know the practicalities of sexual relationships. They want to know how they’re conducted, how to get into one, and what is expected of them in a relationship like that. Please teach them to respect other people’s relationship needs by not pursuing relationships with people whose needs they cannot understand. […]

Can sex be your primary connection and it still be a True Emotion Mirror connection?

Yes, it can, and it kinda has to be. It, too, must be mutual, however, even if you have a mutual fetish for “forced” scenarios. But it cannot be your ONLY connection. Our sexuality is the thing that brings people together into a sexual relationship. A romantic/sexual relationship without sex is called a friendship, not […]

If you want a relationship not based on sex, don’t use sex to get it.

Enough said.

You shouldn’t think you’re less of a friend if you ALSO have sex.

There are some people who see sexual relationships as “less than” other friendships. To me, however, and I know to a lot of people, the sexual relationship is like Friendship+. Where every other relationship is limited to what is non-sexual, a sexual relationship has no expansion limits. You can be the best of friends AND […]

People who believe nice (and sex) is reserved for friends (and spouse-material) only, think you’re evil if you’re nice with more people.

Just saying. Some people believe you being nice and non-calculative is evil.

Vanity – physical fitness and good looks, living for sex.

When I tried to put my finger on why I was feeling very unhappy in life, I realized at the core of it all was the lack of great sex and, being married at the time, the realization I’d never have an opportunity to find it, if I stayed married. My then-husband is a great […]

How to snare your True Emotion Mirror; Sex, food, and good advice.

You’re going to die (laughing) when you get it. We’ve created all this complication around bagging a bloke. đŸ˜€ All it takes is sex, food, and good advice. This sounds so stupid—or what I’ve thought it needs sounds stupid—I don’t know which. Love confessions will backfire almost 100%, no matter how much you want to […]

Is it right to feel sex would be a factor in a relationship based on true romantic love?

Yes. There is absolutely no reason why sex would go away from a relationship between two physically healthy people who are in love IF they are sexual in the first place. There are people who are asexual, and there’s nothing to change that, but they shouldn’t be in relationships with sexual people. Asexual people are […]

What are reasonable expectations in a relationship? How much attention? Sex? Together-time?

The purpose of a relationship is to make you feel loved, wanted, cared for, happy, and fulfilled. If those things are not there, the relationship does not fulfill its purpose. What is reasonable is not the question. The question is: is what you are getting enough for you? Another question may be: Is what you […]

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