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How to be available for a relationship?

It’s not as hard as you think. The key, oddly enough is the opposite what you’d think. You don’t have to buy your way into a relationship – you have to want it for yourself and enjoy your search. Everything in life works from hedonism. You enjoy your work; you do a better job. You […]

Don’t force The Timeless into a relationship nor The Modern out of it.

The Modern feel the need to prove or to be proven that they are “serious” about the relationship by insisting upon it. The Timeless need you to be the best, most amazing person they can imagine ever winding up with to fall in love with you and to keep a relationship going with you. Now, […]

You can stop expecting true love to be unconditional

You are ashamed that you have to do something for love, right?   You’re envious of babies who get to shit their pants and be graded and fed and smiled at all day long, right? What do they have that you don’t, you ask. Age, on their side, is what. It stops being cute around […]

What do women want out of a relationship?

There is no such thing as a woman who can speak for all of us if she speaks for herself. “Women” is not a unified group of people. The much better question is, what do you want your woman to be looking for in a relationship? That is a much more relevant, helpful starting point. […]

Permanently ending a relationship of any kind with the Normal Person*

Ending a relationship with the Normal Person* is downright impossible when they have decided that they’re in like Flynn. You will have to negotiate the relationship’s closure and offer a “severance package” to your Lover-thinking* person. You will have to agree to the terms of separation, regardless of what relationship this is. This post is […]

How to have a relationship with the Normal Person*?

I have spent a lot of time contemplating how to end a relationship with a determined Dog-Type Thinker who simply doesn’t want to take a no for an answer and is prepared to do anything to be “a friend” (a dog) for you. This relationship poses multiple problems, and I wholeheartedly advise against it, but […]

Savage Spirit Mirror and the Lovers’ Choice Soulmate*

Ironically, the Savage Spirit Mirror and the Lovers’ Choice Soulmate* are the same thing in a different modality. It is based on absolute, unquestioned commitment; the difference is in how you look at it. The pair is somewhat calm when commitment is trusted, making them Lovers’ Choice Soulmates*. When either one of the pair or […]

The Difference Between A True Emotion Mirror relationship and the Savage Spirit Mirror.

Both of these relationships are “the ultimate” relationship, based on a dynamic that keeps drawing the partners together. This dynamic, particularly the True Emotion Mirror one, can be pushed off the rails by assumptions about “men” and “women.” Still, a would-be Savage Spirit Mirror can easily get tangled up with someone wrong because they get […]

To make or break a persistent (unwanted) connection to someone who insists they love you…

If you are in a situation where someone is persistently in love with you and demanding a chance, give them permission to love you as much as they do, and give them a chance to prove to you that they do, indeed, love you. Do not promise to love them back, however, or to have […]

What do you have to do to heal your True Emotion Mirror relationship?

Chase? Not chase? Brave it? Do something dramatic? You know, these relationships are very individual. Each True Emotion Mirror couple or soup is tied together for the reason that they are compatible to each other, not to anybody else. This means that their dynamic is theirs, yours is yours. What works for you is not […]

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