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One of the best signs of being in love and secure in a relationship is that you >BOTH< love bickering and arguing.

Bickering and arguing in a relationship is truly NOT GREAT when the relationship isn’t solid. Either both of you avoid arguments or only one of you does, but even if you normally HATE bickering and arguing and “being in a mood” in average relationships, in a secure, love-filled relationship, these things will suddenly feel amusing. […]

Don’t allow yourself to be used for relationship practise unless you could use a lesson, too.

the Normal Person* tend to view their relationships as “practise” for the real one. While I get that sometimes relationships are temporary, these practice relationships shouldn’t be one-sided, or life-long. That said, they sometimes figure the practise is namely about keeping to one person for life, but what they should be focussed on is how […]

The TrEmoR theory is there to help you decide whether your relationship has hope – not to pose expectations on you.

Yes. True Emotion Mirrors can get separated. They can have their own issues. They can fight. They may seem “unaware” of the connection, but it is absolutely NEVER true, that they feel NOTHING. If they feel nothing, they cannot be your True Emotion Mirror, but whether they’re telling you the truth about it or not, […]

Why can’t we “just trust” the True Emotion Mirror connection?

A True Emotion Mirror connection benefits from certain innocent faith in love. Realism is a little toxic to it, but being a realist myself, I cannot help but analyze. “Why can’t you just trust it?” is like asking a cow to “just fly.” Maybe a better analogy would be an injured bird. You can’t “just […]

the Normal Person* commit to a relationship type and sacrifice their own traits to it.

The way Dog-Type Thinkers and Cat-Type Thinkers view personal preferences in relationships is very different. The Normal Person* thinkers take it for granted that everyone is after a monogamous ISO-standard marriage to please their parents and bring new blood to the family. The Normal Person* would read terms like “bisexual” or “polyamorous” as descriptions of […]

A True Emotion Mirror bond never feels bad. If your connection feels bad, it’s something else.

Intense soulmate connections happen. Some of them feel good, some of them feel bad. The ones that feel bad are about something other than a True Emotion Mirror connection. A True Emotion Mirror always feels good to you, even if it goes dreadfully wrong. Even when you’re not talking, you feel better just knowing they’re […]

A narcissist will try to make any relationship LOOK LIKE a True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate relationship, and thinks everyone else does the same.

A narcissist is a person who fears strangers and life itself to their very core. They don’t trust anybody; their life is about survival and finding shelter. They do this by lifting their status by any means they can. One of the ways they can do this is to obtain a partner who loves them. […]

People have different relationship rules for their acquittances, friends, family, and lovers.

You should be well aware that your son won’t treat you the same as he treats his wife. What we ask the public to respect us for is one thing, friends and family is another. A person’s dating profile may often address their usual annoyances and put very little mind to “the correct behavior,” and […]

Runner & Chaser dynamic (in whatever relationship) is based on lack of appreciation… On the chaser’s part.

Imagine yourself in the shoes of a runner. What do you feel? Imagine any relationship that you don’t want but another person does. What are your reasons? The more love there is in that relationship, the better the example to illustrate the point. The more important that relationship is, the better example it makes. Dare […]

Fate, destiny, god’s plan… And your free will.

I call my spiritual belief system the Free Spirit Theory. Your will is limited by nothing but other people’s free will – and that of entities thinking of themselves as Gods. I’m still battling on whether gods are gods by some other trait difference than wanting to be, but I do think there is several […]

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