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The Difference Between A True Emotion Mirror relationship and the Savage Spirit Mirror.

Both of these relationships are “the ultimate” relationship, based on a dynamic that keeps drawing the partners together. This dynamic, particularly the True Emotion Mirror one, can be pushed off the rails by assumptions about “men” and “women.” Still, a would-be Savage Spirit Mirror can easily get tangled up with someone wrong because they get […]

To make or break a persistent (unwanted) connection to someone who insists they love you…

If you are in a situation where someone is persistently in love with you and demanding a chance, give them permission to love you as much as they do, and give them a chance to prove to you that they do, indeed, love you. Do not promise to love them back, however, or to have […]

What do you have to do to heal your True Emotion Mirror relationship?

Chase? Not chase? Brave it? Do something dramatic? You know, these relationships are very individual. Each True Emotion Mirror couple or soup is tied together for the reason that they are compatible to each other, not to anybody else. This means that their dynamic is theirs, yours is yours. What works for you is not […]

One of the best signs of being in love and secure in a relationship is that you >BOTH< love bickering and arguing.

Bickering and arguing in a relationship is truly NOT GREAT when the relationship isn’t solid. Either both of you avoid arguments or only one of you does, but even if you normally HATE bickering and arguing and “being in a mood” in average relationships, in a secure, love-filled relationship, these things will suddenly feel amusing. […]

Don’t allow yourself to be used for relationship practise unless you could use a lesson, too.

the Young Soul* tend to view their relationships as “practise” for the real one. While I get that sometimes relationships are temporary, these practice relationships shouldn’t be one-sided, or life-long. That said, they sometimes figure the practise is namely about keeping to one person for life, but what they should be focussed on is how […]

The TrEmoR theory is there to help you decide whether your relationship has hope – not to pose expectations on you.

Yes. True Emotion Mirrors can get separated. They can have their own issues. They can fight. They may seem “unaware” of the connection, but it is absolutely NEVER true, that they feel NOTHING. If they feel nothing, they cannot be your True Emotion Mirror, but whether they’re telling you the truth about it or not, […]

Why can’t we “just trust” the True Emotion Mirror connection?

A True Emotion Mirror connection benefits from certain innocent faith in love. Realism is a little toxic to it, but being a realist myself, I cannot help but analyze. “Why can’t you just trust it?” is like asking a cow to “just fly.” Maybe a better analogy would be an injured bird. You can’t “just […]

the Young Soul* commit to a relationship type and sacrifice their own traits to it.

The way Dog Thinkers* and Cat Thinker*s view personal preferences in relationships is very different. The Young Soul* thinkers take it for granted that everyone is after a monogamous ISO-standard marriage to please their parents and bring new blood to the family. The Young Soul* would read terms like “bisexual” or “polyamorous” as descriptions of […]

A True Emotion Mirror bond never feels bad. If your connection feels bad, it’s something else.

Intense soulmate connections happen. Some of them feel good, some of them feel bad. The ones that feel bad are about something other than a True Emotion Mirror connection. A True Emotion Mirror always feels good to you, even if it goes dreadfully wrong. Even when you’re not talking, you feel better just knowing they’re […]

A narcissist will try to make any relationship LOOK LIKE a True Emotion Mirror or Precious Soulmate relationship, and thinks everyone else does the same.

A narcissist is a person who fears strangers and life itself to their very core. They don’t trust anybody; their life is about survival and finding shelter. They do this by lifting their status by any means they can. One of the ways they can do this is to obtain a partner who loves them. […]

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