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Messages from Sebastyne as chosen by the Universe.

Don’t get obsessed over parting on good terms.

There are unsolvable relationship dynamics. Even if there was some tiny fraction of a chance to solve some relationship issues, they are simply not all worth the time and effort to do it. Don’t get hung up on ending things on a high note or in friendly terms, it’s just too much work sometimes. Learn […]

You maybe genuinely polygamous but still feel the need to do monogamy with the right person – don’t worry, it’ll go away.

OK, your mind has told you that you have a thing for poly-relationships, sharing, and all that. However, when you find a True Emotion Mirror, you’ll find yourself drawn to monogamy with them. This is a phase. It is also a purifying state, where you’ll push away Trail Companions and other temporaries. You form a […]

There’s power in “I just don’t care anymore”

You know how you want to be liked, accepted, not disapproved of? Loved, happy, successful, appreciated? There’s a lot of want to hold onto, you know? When you just go “I don’t think I care anymore” you release a lot of pressure. You’ll start prioritizing your energy expenditure, perhaps automatically simplifying things that were too […]

Don’t try to be something you’re not… Unless you think what you are not is “free to do what you want.”

A Young Soul* is often confused about what people mean by this phrase: “Don’t try to be something you’re not.” It usually does kinda refer to “trying to be better than who you are,” but to some people it means things like “don’t think you’re one of those people who get to choose what they […]

You don’t need to be AFRAID of the things you’re warned about. You’re supposed to be AWARE of them.

When you’re in traffic, you are AWARE that you and your kids might die on this trip. You’re not afraid of it, you’re aware of the dangers, and you drive accordingly. Your awareness of the danger is good for everybody, your fear would be potentially a risk. You know eating sugar might kill you one […]

You might be surprised that you don’t have to coax men or women into a relationship or romance nearly as much as you thought…

Heterosexual people have this problem… Men don’t really understand why women would want men into romantic situations with them, because they, themselves, don’t, and straight women feel exactly the same way about women. Note, that closet homosexuals understand very well why THEIR gender is desirable, and therefore, they exude confidence in relationships with the opposite […]

People don’t need to like you, let alone love you, for you to have the right to exist.

While the Cat Type Thinking trauma is effectively being too loved or needed (because they’ve figured this out already), the Dog Type Thinking trauma is the lack of realization that they don’t need to be loved or even liked to have the right to exist (after being born). Anyone can be the biggest ahole in […]

Don’t worry, you’re not so hot that people will line up to meet your demands against their will. Trust me.

So I just found out that my True Emotion Mirror, who, to me, is the hottest thing in the world, doesn’t talk to me or other women about what he wants from women because he’s afraid women will jump into pleasing him… Successfully. Yes. The dude’s like ripped out of the cover of a romance […]

They don’t tell you they love you because they don’t want to put you on a spot. XD

Swans* believe that love has to be returned. You love someone, they’re obligated to love you back. Therefore, if they love you, they may not tell you they love you because they don’t want to put you on a spot. They may tell you anything except how they feel. Still, here’s one clue that […]

Don’t ever imply to someone you’re in love with that you don’t want to hear from them.

If someone’s interest in you suddenly went cold… Check your messages. How many times have not answered a message because it wasn’t important? EVERY MESSAGE from your lover is important, asshole. If you imply to someone that you don’t want to hear from them, guess what they’re going to do, especially if they thought you […]

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