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You don’t have to do shit for anybody – that’s a promise (and a threat)

You would be HORRIFIED of the kind of stuff people do for each other with the other party COMPLETELY oblivious to the fact they don’t want to. The amount of unhappiness that exists completely without the realization of the person who is inflicting that pain on you. We all ASSUME what is pleasurable for us […]

Don’t force trust in your luck (or anything else for that matter)

Here’s a general rule of thumb: if you can’t trust your luck or someone, or something, it’s probably NOT because there’s something wrong with you, but because your luck is not on your side at the moment. Again, I’ll illuminate my point from my own life. I’ve been struggling financially all my life. All my […]

Why do I always miss out? Why don’t people love me?

This post is for the Survivalist* thinker type, although the Idealists* can always struggle with this question, just that their answer is entirely different. When people are children, they get love bestowed upon them automatically, everywhere they go (mostly). Everybody is nice to a child, everyone tells you you’re cute or precious, you’re […]

Whenever people don’t treat you the way you want them to, it’s your fault. Check list

Categorically, if people tend to treat you in a way that you don’t like for long, it’s your fault. You’re somehow giving out a vibe that allows their behavior to happen; if you think all men are *this*, it’s something YOU are doing to attract men that are *this*, not that all men are what […]

Don’t explain what you need to people who you don’t want it from

This is somewhat of a no-brainer to a lot of people, however, people who have gotten used to people wanting to please them a lot, like reincarnations of lords and ladies, kings and queens, and the like, it can have formed into a habit to allow people you don’t love or care for to cater […]

Men of honor don’t make (ANY) promises to attached women or while attached

Let me count the ways… 😀 I just realized something. There are men who are… less principled than others. There are men who make promises they have a vague intention of keeping, and then there are men who won’t make promises they are not free to honor. There are men (and women) who will make […]

“I don’t need you anymore” maturing per the Idealists* and the Survivalist*

The Idealists* thinker type, again, compared to the Survivalist* does this one thing the opposite way: How they become independent. An the Idealists* never truly feels like they need a parent, therefore, they spend their youth trying to prove to their mother or father that they are already old enough to be […]

Why people who don’t believe in the spiritual are important, too

I am writing a psycho-spiritual theory. Often, I encourage people to not to push this onto people who don’t need it yet. Today, I ran into another point along the same lines. There is need for all kinds of people in this world, and we all fall down at times. It is sometimes important, that […]

If you don’t like the feeling, stop touching it!

This may sound funny, but if it works for you, it’ll work, if not, don’t over-analyze this as it is really as simple a trick as it sounds. When you feel an unpleasant emotion, it’s common to get stuck with an emotion you don’t like and don’t know how to stop feeling that way. This […]

“Don’t be jealous” is the dumbest thing polyamorists have invented

Polyrelationships are mostly based on the ideal of non-jealousy. At worst, this is a form of emotional abuse, at best, a beautiful understanding of two like-minded people, but jealousy should have a place in polyrelationships. It should be enjoyed, not suppressed, it should be the salt of the whole thing!

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