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Don’t ignore your fears, the pointless ones die with examination.

Whenever you are afraid of anything, fear anything, don’t close your eyes from it. Don’t just dwell in it, nor try to not think about it. Not thinking about your fears is the worst thing you can do to them. It’s like FOOD for it. Instead, indulge in the fear. Examine the origins logically with […]

Don’t be fooled by nasty snark -commentry hiding incompetence.

There are perfect examples in collections of “fashion fails” on the Internet. Writers who clearly know nothing of style and fashion pretend to know what they’re talking about, bashing others and trying to sound like they’re in the know. Sure, if you know anything about your topic, you’ll get something right, but looking for a […]

“Don’t they have a heart?!”

Umm… They do. If this feeling of yours is because you have begged and pleaded, you’ve cried and showed how much it hurts to be left behind… They simply don’t want to put you in a position where you’d be hurt again. They know you’re hurting, and they know that if they’ll give in now, […]

Don’t rely on other people to do the right thing. Or to treat you as you deserve once you have done the right thing by them.

Learn to predict selfishness, lying, self-serving attitudes, and manipulation. Instead of trying to make other people do the right thing, focus on teaching yourself to live with a moral integrity among the morally corrupt and WIN. Stop wasting time teaching stupid people things that require intelligence and experience or selfish people things that require selflessness. […]

If you feel constant pressure to publish a project early, maybe don’t start advertising it before you’re well close to release date.

I hate it when movie producers start promoting a movie sometimes six months or even a year before it’s released. I get it. You think nobody will show up if you leave it to the last minute, but you know… By the time the movie is out, you, as a non-devoted fan, are sick of […]

They don’t get to change you in order to make money out of you.

the Young Soul* think that the Ravens* thrive for perfection in order to be loved. In fact, we do the opposite. We try NOT TO be so ambitious so that we’d be accepted. Not loved, but accepted. We know the difference between love and acceptance very clearly. Just because you accept someone’s presence doesn’t […]

Don’t allow yourself to be used for relationship practise unless you could use a lesson, too.

the Young Soul* tend to view their relationships as “practise” for the real one. While I get that sometimes relationships are temporary, these practice relationships shouldn’t be one-sided, or life-long. That said, they sometimes figure the practise is namely about keeping to one person for life, but what they should be focussed on is how […]

The only thing the Young Soul* wants and needs to hear is “You don’t have to be responsible (yet).”

the Young Soul* do take responsibility for their close ones, sometimes too much so. They are prematurely responsible, however. You may have to give them boundaries about what they can and cannot handle yet. You should never force them to take responsibility, and be careful not to even suggest that they should – and always […]

Don’t assume you know or understand the first thing about the people you love.

This is not my best post ever. Still, my guides have been bugging me for it, so… Here it is in it’s raw format. Maybe this version popped up because it offers you something that the more polished version won’t. I’m sure there’ll be one eventually. (This seems to change topics half-way through… But there’s […]

If big gestures don’t make them feel loved by you, try small things.

People who can’t be loved by big gestures won’t feel loved by bigger gestures. Try the tiniest. One single flower. A touch of a hand. A kiss. They’re better.

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