That dirty word; humility

Imagine a board of judges in a creative or business talent show. A brash, obnoxious person presents their talent and expects to be hailed for it. The judges look at him down at their noses and remind him that he has to find humility. It’s important to stay humble and they kick his ass out of the room.

Now, you might be thinking that what possible cause do these people, adorned in expensive clothes and accessories, driving home in a car worth more than your house, know about humility?

Let me tell you: They know a lot.

If they didn’t, they wouldn’t be sitting where they are sitting.

Why?

Because humility is the feeling that allows you to know when you are wasting time kidding yourself telling yourself stories that simply do not have any base in reality.

These people can and have accepted realities. Truths about themselves, stuff that a lot of people do not want to admit to themselves AT ALL or not fully.

What humility is NOT?

Humility is not a state of servitude or a state of lack or forced asceticism. It is not submission (although humility can lead to submission, but they are not the same thing). It is not pretending to not be proud of yourself or your achievements, it is not pretense that you love people you don’t love; All pretense is false ego, and false ego only ever consists of perceived positive traits whatever they are in the group you are a part of. A false ego is the opposite of humility.

What is humility?

Humility is the state of surrendering to the truth. It is accepting the truth, the reality, the world and yourself to be as IT IS. It doesn’t mean you accept that it should STAY that way, you simply accept that this is the way things are NOW, in this moment of time.

When you are humble, you are able to admit to things that are true about you and others. It doesn’t mean the lack of ambition, or the lack of pride, or the absence of, let’s say, lust or greed, it means you are able to accept your ambition, your pride, your lust and your greed to be words that describe you.

Demonic folk, spiritually speaking, are humble. They ACCEPT who they are and live accordingly. They’ve stopped pretending to be better than what they are. It’s a lot of the angelic folk that have trouble with their ego. 😉 However, sometimes bad people live with an ego, too, so being bad doesn’t mean you are humble, some people who are “bad”, act bad because they have trouble accepting that they are not quite that bad after all. 😉 Remember; perceived positive traits: “You gotta stay bad in this neighborhood, otherwise, they’ll eat you for breakfast!” or even: “Maybe people don’t judge me that bad if I just show everyone how bad I am right off the bat? I won’t be deceiving anyone that way.” So they act worse than what they actually are just to “warn people” up front. :p

State of humility is to accept yourself for what you truly ARE

This is a difficult concept to understand if you are NOT HUMBLE. What you are is a collection of psychological traits. Your inner needs, values, beliefs. What you DO, own or who you are related to, is all external and have nothing to do with who you are. How you behave has nothing to do with it, but a behavior coming from humility is “authentic” and behavior coming from external motivations “I have to be this way to avoid punishment or shame” is fake behavior. A lot of spiritual and religious people are just as fake and ego-filled as what you associate a someone rich and famous to be, as they act ‘holier than thou’ as in pretend virtues to avoid punishment (hell) or shame (in their congregation).

The most humble moment in my life followed reading a book written by an online friend of mine (now long lost into the byte world, she’s out there somewhere) Laura Carrol. The book was titled Finding Fulfilment Inside Out, it was read-in-one sitting paperback. I like to throw credits her way because that book changed my life. (Credit where credit’s due, right? 🙂 ) After reading the book that instructed you to summarize your purpose in one sentence, I threw away all pretense, all bullshit, all avoidance of reality and said: “I want to understand everything.” FUUUUCK, I thought to myself. “I’m fucked. I’ll never be happy.” To be clear, the point that I accepted I want to understand everything was the  most humble moment of admitting to realities, and I was back in false ego in the following sentence. “I do not want to admit it, even to myself, that I believe it to be possible to understand everything…” (I think this is the first time I’ve admitted to myself or anyone else that the very following sentence was false ego.)

The Universe answered a little later by pointing me towards the first resources to start fulfilling that need. Life coaching, spiritual research… I went crazy. I became schizophrenic, because if you truly want to understand everything, SANE won’t cut it anymore. 😀

I tell that story here to show how FAR FROM LACK OF AMBITION humility can be. It simply sets you on the right path and KEEPS you on it.

Personal Attacks

Subconsciously, everyone is trying to force everyone else and themselves into a state of humility. People either attack someone they know will bring them down from their self-delusions or they attack someone who they feel has to find humility. We butt heads with those who either we want to break or who we know will “break us”, meaning breaking the wall of the false ego. Usually, more commonly, we tend to attack people stronger than us, as in the people more humble than us, but that shouldn’t be mistaken for self-defense. People will defend themselves, their lives, their loved ones and loved things, and their right to a free life against personal attackers, of course.

Why should you accept things to be as they are now?

The reason why those successful people mentioned at the start at the post are humble and are where they are because of their humility, is the same reason why you should try it for size, too. When you are able to both see and admit to your own flaws and failures, you have the power to change them, too. If you keep looking away from your flaws and insist there are none, you also remove the possibility of fixing those flaws and from growing where you are now to where you need to be and beyond.

Without humility, you are blind to your own flaws, and potentially, that makes you the only one who isn’t laughing at you.

How to find humility?

It may take some time, don’t rush it. You may need to be alone for it, even arrange some time to stay alone for a week or so if you already know on some level that this will freaking crush your existence. Many of us hide things like “I don’t love the people I’m supposed to love” or “I hate my life so much I want to kill myself” from ourselves. These are ego-statements. You may already know they’re there, but don’t worry, just know that whatever it is, you can handle it. Accept that as a truth, too, you CAN figure out a way to solve the problem and it will be a win-win situation.

The magical thing about truth is, is that everyone prefers it in the end. We ALL want what is real, but we so often want to lull others into an “improved reality” because we feel sorry for them. It’s all quite complicated, but once ONE PERSON you know decides to stop pretending, the butterfly effect happens. If one person decides to go full on authentic, others MUST react and find their own base of reality.

The magical thing is, that there is a place for everyone, there is a way to sort it out, you CAN find the truth and find the perfect way to organize it so that the truth can be shown in your everyday life. Know this.

And, as a bonus, I’ll teach you what positive thinking is: Positive thinking isn’t convincing yourself that there is no problem. Positive thinking means you can look at the problems square in the eye and believe there is a way to solve them.

There is a way to solve yours, too.

Sometimes all you need is a moment of truth and you realize FUUUUK, you already have everything you ever wanted.

For some of us, that is not even remotely true. :p

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