The annoying people who you think you love but don’t

In many ways, relationship advice from both professionals and your friends and family attempt to mimic the True Emotion Mirror relationship on the surface. What happens naturally with a True Emotion Mirror, relationship advice is either aiming or mistaken to mimic it in order to make true love happen. A lot of relationship advice then mistakes a sign of something as a cause for it, and try to create a sign out of nowhere hoping to make the real thing manifest. Annoying someone deliberately in order to make them take notice of you and to think that they can “respect you” and that “you don’t take their crap” is a perfect example of a tactic that will create mediocre relationships that are bound to fail in the future when you no longer have the energy to keep on annoying them.

True Emotion Mirrors CAN annoy each other quite without trying. This is because one or both of them are in denial about something, and the other one is a constant reminder of who they are as a person. For instance, if you hold a lot of guilt about being a complete sadomasochist deep down, and the only thing that your True Emotion Mirror reminds you of is your need to whip them until they’re sobbing in agony, you will want to make them go away, and disappear as far as you can throw them. At the same time, you can’t stop feeling overwhelming love for the same person, and you simply want to keep them safe – at the same time as you want to whip them until they scream! How do you explain a feeling like that to yourself, especially if sadomasochism is something  you have held no previous interest toward, but this person, looking perfectly vanilla, makes you want to do awful things to him or her, while at the same time, you feel you will love them forever and forever.

Now, everyone knows the stereotypical Italian young couple that fight all the time only to come together at the end of the movie pouring words of love for each other. Now THAT is real love. That is actually based on real, true authentic romance, BUT we see it as dysfunctional people – usually the one of them we don’t know. Perhaps in smaller communities we could have observed both of the young kids and known that hey, they are both perfectly normal people, and to boot, they are exactly the same, and we could have stood back amused watching them go at it as they fall in love. But now, we don’t usually know the other one, we just know that OUR friend or family member is perfectly normal, but that one person is just acting like a lunatic! So we go against it all, and instead we start PRETENDING to annoy someone who we are not nearly as attracted to in order to create an illusion that true love is being born.

And the illusion is what we normally get.

So… I have been chased by a female soul (a lot of my information comes from the non-physical plane where I have A LOT OF “life simulation” visions and I translate them to real world) and she is someone I know in the real world, but who has never, so far, been obvious about her sexual feelings toward me, although I probably should have paid attention. The reason why I bring her up is because I am completely heterosexual myself, but when she annoys me like this, she feels beautiful in my eyes. In my true perception, she is as plain jane as they come, she does nothing for me intellectually, and to top that off, I am straight, and she’s a girl, as am I (for those who didn’t make that connection yet). But…. You are bound to get a reaction out of someone if you annoy them long enough. If they are of the right gender, the likelihood of you getting them to succumb to you are SUPER HIGH, because there is one thing that is very tempting: attention. People LOVE getting attention, and they particularly love getting sexual attention, and relentless attention at that. A lot of relationship advice tells you not to appear desperate, and to not chase, and to be cool about it, but it is these people who will win battles because they are not below getting desperate and going full on into a freaking annoy campaign for as long as it takes for this person to come around… And usually, they get what they want… While their target gets to compromise and be royally disappointed in the end.

The worst part of this is that because this tactic works, some people use it over and over and wind up creating permanent (but far from perfect) soulmate connections as a result.

So… How do you feel when someone is being annoying to you? Do you still love them through the annoyance, or are they just annoying? That’s all… But you could check this post, too.

How to react when someone is trying to irritate you on purpose?

The unfortunate fact is that people who do irritate you on purpose will assume that you reacting to it means interest and your non-reaction means disinterest. If you don’t take the bait, they feel you have rejected them, but if you do, they get the idea that you are interested. Now, some people do not engage into a fight with someone who they want, but they rather respect their idea of themselves and retreat from the fight. They don’t want to fight when they are in love. They would never deliberately hurt someone they love. Unfortunately, if they’ve started picking a fight with you, the chances are they are interested in you and this is a form of flirtation. The best course of action, if YOU ARE interested in them is to take the bait and fight it out; after all, if they turn out NOT to be interested in you and this is a dig, they deserve their head being bit off, and if they ARE interested, and you are, too, it is best to get into the game with them and see where that goes. Pay attention to the insults exchanged though; if you are in love with them, remember it is a form of flirtation and you don’t want to go overboard with your insults.

If you do use the attack and irritate -method as a form of flirtation, remember that an angry reply MAY BE a rejection.

Just understand this: Anger is supposed to be an action designed to drive people away. SUPPOSED TO. That is what it is meant for originally. The reason people use it as a form of flirtation is a quirk, not a norm, and some people reject you by shouting back. Also, some take a long time to react, but if you keep pushing, WHAT ELSE are they going to do in order to reject you if neither ignoring you or screaming at you won’t deliver the message? (And don’t expect people to be able to ignore you for long if you are truly getting on their nerves even if they weren’t the slightest bit interested in you.)

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