the Savants* don’t change FOR YOU they change DESPITE you.

When the Savants* “change” what is actually happening is that as they become more self-aware, they’ll make that awareness seen on the outside. The Savants* like to show everything that they are at once, and they can drop previous habits and expectations that they felt raised into and pressured into, rather than what they felt was authentic. So they do KNOW they were “good enough” before, and that their change may or may not be positive, but they’re not doing it to please other people. They’re doing it for their own good.

Your disapproval tends to be somewhat subjective: “I wouldn’t like that, so I don’t know why my friend would.” So you try to save your friend from something they actually really want to do or be.

Your friend might have tried to explain to you why they are changing or why they changed. I have a novel idea: Maybe try to listen what they are saying and NOT ASSUME they are lying to your face.

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