the Savants* socializing should remain casual until they find the right people.

The Savants* reject people differently from the Normal Person*. The Normal Person* don’t even give you the time of their day if they are not swooned by you, and that is, actually, the best way to go about it. However, the Savants* often feel too lonely in this world to reject every opportunity for human bonding; they stay for a chat even if it’s but for a moment. The reason for the Savants* loneliness is higher IQ; they find it difficult to find intellectual equals among people.

The Savants* tend to feel bad about their habit of moving through people at quite a fast rate when they are not thoroughly in love. They can hold a torch for the same person for life but still get through people rather quickly, and they may feel a little two-ways about themselves in this regard. They feel like they’re… Assholes, really. Still, they should probably worry less about it and enjoy fleeting conversations with random people without feeling too guilty about it.

the Normal Person* love to keep you around forever, and their persistence and lovingness can make a Savants* person feel like a super baddy for not wanting that relationship to get any deeper than that. They may have gotten into a bad habit of blaming themselves for having one-night stands and simple casual conversations with people, but they should definitely stop beating themselves up about it and lighten things up without too much of a worry.

The Savants* shouldn’t fear they get cold and callous if they start deliberately AVOIDING relationships, even declaring that they are not looking for permanent relationships. They should stop the guilt of being casual about their relationships and embrace them, and create a personal culture around meeting a lot of random people getting attached to nobody. To not give out their phone number, and to not “friend” people on Social Media simply to be nice. They should also not say that they will, but smile and say they’re happy to have met this person, but that they’re moving on without exchanging contact details.

The Savants* should know that they WILL tie a permanent bond to someone who is suitable for them, but they have a bad habit of attempting to make life-long commitments to temporary lovers. They should rather thive to create a social media following than trying to create a circle of close friendships out of people they don’t TRULY love. Then, out of that social media following, they can pick and choose their favorites, but they should definitely stop stopping themselves from keeping their relationships casual until they truly find people they love.

the Savants* social rules:

• Never approach people you are not SERIOUSLY interested in, not even as a “growth exercise”.
• Chat with anyone who approaches you for a time and then move on.
• DO NOT feel obligated to exchange contact details.
• Learn to have a lot of casual friends and reserve your Best Friend spots for those who make a TRUE impression on you.
• Learn to NEVER form “obligation/desperation” friendships ever again if you have so far.
• Consciously stop idolizing and romanticizing PERMANENT relationships, and start romanticizing random meetings of strangers… and make this a public sentiment.
• Everybody loves being the person who you’d change your batchelor(ette) habits for.

the Normal Person* ploys to avoid:

• the Normal Person* want you to have few friends, and start and end the choosing process with them.
• Guilt-tripping you for keeping things casual and shallow.
• Shaming you for “having intimacy issues”.
• Scaring you with the notion that you’re getting too old and eventually nobody wants you.
• Looking at you with puppy-dog eyes hoping you’ll change your mind.
• Starting drama with you to keep you talking to them and engaging with them, in the hopes that you’ll realize they haven’t left your side… Try not to get provoked by them. LEARN TO identify and shut their hopes down. Read more.

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