the Savants*’s anger is different from dog-type’s anger.

The Savants* aren’t scared unless chased into a corner by a pack of the Normal Person*. They’re afraid the Normal Person*wants to lock them in… Put a collar on them, too, so to speak. Cats don’t like collars. And even then, hissing as they might be, they are not going to stick around for a fight, they’re looking for a way out of this situation. They’ll be relying on their smarts and their agility to get out of a sticky situation, rather than sticking around for a fight.

The dog-type’s fear is different. They are afraid mostly of their own incompetence and too big responsibilities left on their shoulders: “OMG OMG OMG, I’m home alone and I don’t know how to keep this place safe without my pack. Nobody is helping me. *bark, bark, bark*. This is horrible, I’m not dog enough for this! I don’t know what I’m doing, my pack is going to kill me if I screw up.” The Normal Person*is afraid they’re letting the whole pack down, a worry that the Savants* finds very difficult to relate to… Because they don’t live in packs, even if the Normal Person*thinks they’re a part of their pack.

Now, as we are all human, we don’t hiss and bark; we all yell and scream but for different reasons. The Savants* is trying to tell you to “fuck off and leave me be” but the Normal Person*is telling you to “come back and help me!” If the Normal Person*yells at the Savants*, the Savants* will fuck off and leave the Normal Person*be, and if the Savants* yells at the dog-type, the Normal Person*will come back and help the Savants*… Making the Savants* hiss some more, which makes the Normal Person*help them harder… And the cycle will go on and on.

Unfortunately, the Normal Person*does NOT use words to express what they’re thinking, words are basically a Savants* invention. I have no idea why. Explaining yourself to the Normal Person*eems to be a wasted effort because the Normal Person*tries to REASSURE others that “everything is fine” even when it wasn’t because they think they’re pegged to be the MOST COMPETENT in a very shitty pack of dogs, and that scares them, but they don’t want to worry their pack members. Therefore, the Savants* either expresses insecurity or competence, one or the other, the Normal Person*will interpret as worry about their (expected) role as the pack leader as only pack-leaders, in the mind of a dog-type, have something to worry about.

The Savants*, however, worry about themselves, not about their pack. They feel the need to survive the world and “hunt” alone, that’s what cats do. Therefore, they may sit on their sofa licking their paw, and wonder out loud: “I don’t know how to handle myself out there… But I’ll figure it out.” The Savants* does NOT think their pack has responsibility over them, nor do they feel responsible for the survival of their family members. They’ll help out in an emergency, sure, but they don’t feel GENERALLY speaking responsible for the pack’s survival, let alone the level of their luxuries.

It is important to know what people are angry about when they yell at you – are you pushing yourself too close or are you not being very helpful?

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