the Cat Type Thinkers’s idea of “a commitment” compared to the Dog Type Thinker idea of Commitment

The the Cat Type Thinkers find the freedom to leave but wanting to stay with someone the ultimate rush in a relationship. They get excited about the thought that although there is nothing really stopping you from leaving, each day that I wake up, you’re still here, because this is where you want to be, with me, out of all people in this world, you chose me. They are also people who would not want someone to stay with them if they are in love with someone else more than them, because they’d want that respect that their partner knows they don’t need love based on pity, and when they lose their self-confidence the one thing they start fearing is that their partner stays with them out of pity. They never want to be anyone’s burden, but they want to be their loved one’s joy, and when they do not feel like a joy to someone, they tend to wind up leaving or killing themselves, to not be a burden. They never want to be the one standing in the way of the happiness or fulfillment of the people they love, but they want to know they are the happiness the other person wants and needs. If they feel they can’t make their partner completely happy, they’ll leave. The only reason they’d stay is for the Dog Type Thinker, whose needs are simple and limited to “stay with me” only, but to a lot of the Cat Type Thinkers, their own needs are not met in that relationship and they might, rather than focus on the needs of their lover, remember that they too deserve to be happy in a relationship and leave… But this may take time for a Cat Type Thinkers, men especially, to notice; they too should feel loved and cherished in a relationship, not just a combined slave and a security guard.

Curiously, when the Dog Type Thinker wants to make someone feel loved, they emphasize the troubles they endure on their behalf. “I gave birth to you, nearly breaking myself in half!” “Oh you know I am breaking my back doing your ironing and cleaning!” “Don’t you ever forget how I busted my ass to get you through school…” And all of these remarks, to a Cat Type Thinkers mean: “You are a nuisance not worth having, pick yourself up and be useful. You are a waste of air, I have to do everything on your behalf while you do diddly squat!” This is the best way to get rid of a Cat Type Thinkers, who will die for you if they love you, but they do not want to cause an ounce of trouble to you, no matter if they’re a child, a parent, a friend, or a lover. They do not like being a burden, they want to be nothing but a joy. Plus they tend to hate housework, (unless they’re really into home decor and maintenance and make an actual point out of it) and they know they don’t do their fair share, and although they don’t want anyone else to do it, either, they feel they’d best get out of their loved one’s faces as they know they can’t keep up a routine that would please the Dog Type Thinker, as they are not at all routine-prone people. The the Cat Type Thinkers who DO love their house work, they may feel like a burden because they are so finicky about things and get out of people’s hair to let everyone else relax.

The the Cat Type Thinkers may fall in love at the first sight, and they can also form a permanent bond (akin to a commitment) on the first meeting of someone, they may go from strangers to a married couple in a matter of hours and be completely in love for the rest of their lives, which confuses the Dog Type Thinker to no extent. This is not a commitment, per say, this is falling in love and knowing, deep down, that that love will never die, and trusting fully that the other partner feels the same way. They feel it would be the most natural thing in the world to meet their heart’s desire, and not spend another night in another address with them, and they may feel literal pain being separated from their lover, but they do not make a commitment per say.

This is also the relationship that they dream about from the day when they realize fairytale princes and princesses “exist” and fall in love even if one of them was under a spell that made them into a frog. (The the Dog Type Thinker find these stories utterly stupid.) They are truly the people who see the world through rose-colored glasses, and they do, intuitively believe in this kind of love, even though they’ll work their ass off to lose the faith in this kind of love because their logical mind fights it every day. They don’t want to be fools, either, but in their heart of hearts, they always wish for this but might not fully trust it to happen, until it does. (Intuitive Spirit Mirrors.) (Of course, I don’t mean fairytales are real, literally, but the spirit of them is.)

It is also the Cat Type Thinkers who are suckers for the New Age concept of True Emotion Mirrors in the romantic sense, whereas the Dog Type Thinker take it as a permission to force someone into a commitment with them “because they are already married in the spirit”. It is the Dog Type Thinker’s perspective that every the Cat Type Thinkers True Emotion Mirror teacher fights and hates because it goes DIRECTLY against the entire concept of True Emotion Mirrors. I call the Dog Type Thinker’s variation of this Lovers’ Choice Soulmates* and the Cat Type Thinkers’s variation Intuitive Spirit Mirrors.

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