The Deep Love a Man Needs and The Sexual Pleasure a Woman Craves.

Edited: October 2023.

The extent of damage caused by religious teachings to human love lives is astounding. One of the major wrongs it has committed is portraying sex as a dirty act or somehow inferior to “love.” This has not been beneficial to either women or men and even though the original reason for the “ban on sex” has been removed, we are still haunted by this idea. What was the original idea? They wanted to prevent the birth of unwanted children left and right, naturally.

There might be another issue; the sex between true lovers seems always a little wrong to anyone observing. If you’re tuned differently, an observer will gag a little. No matter what you and your True Emotion Mirror are into. Therefore, people who care about you but don’t fully understand you may feel a deep need to protect you from the very sex that you crave.

Anyway, here’s the issue.

Fear of heartbreak.

This mindset forces men to love women in a more feminine manner, fails to excite women, and is unnatural for men. We have grown up believing that men don’t love women in the same way that women love men or that women don’t desire sex in the same way as men do. There is a grain of truth in “not the same way,” but obviously, that difference is necessary to create a certain spicy dynamic between two different beings! So, in this mindset, here’s what happens: She is afraid to truly love a man because she’s been brainwashed to think men are only after one thing. A man is often afraid to passionately make love to his woman because he fears that women a) don’t truly want sex, b) don’t truly love men, and c) will eventually realize this, get bored of him, and break his heart. Yes, you got that right. Men are afraid that women will break their hearts.

Women are skilled at that—breaking men’s hearts, that is. Better than you might think. And they often feel justified in doing so. That’s the worst part. Women can be unforgiving creatures, whereas a man would forgive the woman he loves for almost anything if he believed she loved him in return. Women can detach themselves from a loving man just because he doesn’t meet their criteria. And why do they detach themselves? Because they think men don’t truly love or need women, and therefore, they see themselves as a superficial gift to men, allowing men to be their partners only as long as they behave. Men can’t turn off their emotions the way women can. If they’ve been hurt, they’ll withdraw and nurse their wounds in silence—for much longer than a woman would. She will find a new man who suits her better, while the man wonders why and how she could hurt him so deeply.

There is a silver line to this story: What we associate with “men” and “women” is highly individual and subjective. Therefore, such things as compatible partners do exist – but we’re traumatized by this thought that “all men” and “all women” think this way or that way.

Women are taught to not trust any man – especially the one she’s in love with.

This is not women’s fault. They have been taught not to trust men. Their fathers have told them not to trust men, and even though their fathers know there are exceptions to this rule or horrible lying men, (as they are one of them). They “know” that it’s more likely for their beloved daughters to encounter a stereotypical man, the common type—untrustworthy because that’s what everyone says. Their mothers and friends have also cautioned them not to trust men. But why? Because the Savants* tend to attract the Normal Person*, and thus associate the opposite gender as “the Normal Person*” and that never works – and vice versa.

It’s just the lie we all believe: “men are after one thing only.” And every failed relationship seems to confirm this, but it’s not true. The reason men, just as women, detach from their emotions is simple: they are protecting their hearts. Treating a woman without emotion is safer than treating her with the love they naturally feel. This can also lead to aggression in some men, but let’s not dwell on that. They are waiting for her to love them so they can safely unleash all the fiery love they harbor inside. However, she expects to be cheated on and humiliated if she loves him first, so both of them withhold their love until it’s safe to express it.

Don’t show him how much you love sex, or he will never want to marry you.

Another issue women face is the “good girl” syndrome. The idea that women should not enjoy sex too much probably stems from the jealousy of other women who label them as promiscuous. A respectable woman is not supposed to seek pleasure without rose petals on the bed. And how can a man who is afraid of getting his heart broken again put himself on the line and try to break through the emotional barriers of an ice queen to make love to her the way he naturally would? If he cannot see her sexual nature, how could he fuck her the way she wants him to, if she didn’t fear he’ll lose his respect for her as a result?

With all the #meToo stuff happening, how can any man relax near a woman again? How can they ever be men again? With women being brainwashed to hide their sexuality, and men are being severely punished for even proposing sex to AN ADULT WOMAN, how in the world do we survive this time without serious traumas to our very souls?

I thought to tell men to just “go for it, she’ll dig it!”

When I thought about this topic in 2012, I was going to advise men to make love to women without inhibitions because that’s what any woman desires. However, in all fairness, it’s a big ask, especially now in 2023 as I’m editing this. Instead, I’m telling women to allow themselves to be vulnerable to men—any man. You are stronger than they are. You can handle heartache better, as long as you don’t become bitter. Men deserve your love, almost any man – some of it, at least! Choose a guy and love him. Let him know you love him, look at him with adoration, and he will respond to it. And if he doesn’t, well, does it really matter?

Building these walls will only lead to loneliness unless you’re incredibly lucky. Nobody will break them down but you, not this day and age. Don’t reserve your love for just the “Right One”; he will come along eventually if he’s meant to. Love every man you meet to your greatest ability. You won’t love them all as your True Emotion Mirror, but you can love them all as your brothers; sometimes they’re annoying, too! They need it, and they deserve it. (And you’ll quickly sense the ones who don’t deserve your love if you’re unguarded and know how to avoid them.) And kiss them like you love them! They love to be kissed! That’s one more thing they won’t admit until they’ve experienced it, but every man loves to be kissed! It’s quite an experience to make a strong man melt in your hands just by kissing him properly. Try it, with your man or a new man, just try it. (Trust your instincts.)

It’s not that one gender wants one thing – it’s a thinker type thing.

The amount of pain out there because men yearn for love and women crave intense physical connection is staggering. Somehow, we’ve got this all mixed up! It’s not that one sex wants one thing more than the other; we’ve just trapped ourselves in this situation. Both sides are too afraid of each other to give each other what they both need. It’s almost as if men wanted love so much that they settled for sex, and women wanted sex so much that they settled for love (as if they were separate things, but you get the idea).

Both sexes actually want what the other naturally provides, but instead of daring to want it, we stick with what we’re familiar with. We all think we are perfect examples of how all people of our gender thinks, and what we all want, but we’re not. A Cat Type Thinking* man thinks much more like a Cat Type Thinking* woman, than like a Dog-Type Thinking man, and vice versa.

Men are being told they need to be more feminine, in touch with their feminine side, but when women receive love from men without the passionate masculine love that is directly connected to their physical desires, they don’t want it. It lacks passion. Similarly, when men receive just sex from women, they don’t want it because it’s shallow. Men love with their physical desires, while women love with their hearts, and one is not superior to the other. They complement each other. One cannot grow without the other. Women fall in love when they sense that a man desires them, when they realize he’s passionately attracted and wants to be close to them physically. Men fall in love when they realize she loves him or is unafraid to love him. Isn’t it sad that this is how we feel but often fail to realize it? Isn’t it time we become what we were meant to be?

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