The development of our natural sexuality through several lifetimes

The irony is, that separating boys from girls at an early age, and then confining them into lonely and scary places like boy schools and girl schools is a perfect breeding ground for homosexual connections. People feel sexual where they are safe, and if their girlfriend or their boyfriend makes them feel safe in a strange environment, that is enough to ignite an emotional and sexual bond between these individuals. It is really quite beautiful.

I do not believe ANYONE is either gay or straight in their core, but that it is much more a reaction to “which one of my soulmates (in the context of people we tend to reincarnate with over and over) can I trust not to judge me and to love me no matter what? Which one of them lets me be who I am – including a sexual being without judgement?” As religions have made certain, being sexual with the opposite gender prior to marriage was very well regulated and punished, so the natural instincts takes us to our own gender; there is nothing wrong  hugging your brother or your sister.

War times have the same effect: Men are at war in a constant state of fear for their lives, and bond to their brothers in arms on an emotional level even much more than sexual level, and at home, women share their beds with other women, in order to survive the loneliness and the scarcity of war times. The closeness of another woman brings them comfort while the arrival of their husband brings them a slight fear.

Whoever we share our worries with will get our love. Whoever is there with no intention of violating who we are, gets our love.

The reason why currently gynophile women and androphile men are so common is the constant battle of sexes, and the inability to see the other gender for their virtues rather than their failures. Currently, it is “not right” to admire men for being men, whatever that means, men can only be admired when they show “feminine” traits, such as love of animals or loyalty to their wife (which is already sexist, because this attitude assumes men are not otherwise capable of loving animals or loyalty to women) and that makes it difficult for women to form relationships to men, without using some form of violence to make sure the men are contained and trained as if they were animals. As men are treated with continual suspicion and fear by women, they will withdraw further and form alliances to each other and also their androphile girlfriends. As they withdraw, the women feel abandoned and rely more on other women for support.

This is to say, that what I call “natural sexuality” (natural polygyny or natural polyandry or natural polygamyORpolygynandry¹) is really more a learned behavior than anything (or God’s plan to bring us closer to our right partners faster than what we otherwise would, one or the other).

The main thing to know about homosexuality, polytendencies and whatever cooks your crumpet is that whatever feels good to you is good for you, whatever elevates you and fills you with joy and wish to have more of it, is good for you. (And also to your partners.)

Now… I will throw this in as a bonus, this is off topic, but also good to know… Because we have made the mistake of feeding connections that should not exist out of guilt and fear and pity towards other people (we’ve felt we MUST get married to one person or must pretend to be friends with another for any reason) we might have created soul connections that are MINDBLOWING to the person that was taken in out of pity or feeling of responsibility, but completely lack lustre to the other partner…. There maybe some bond braking required, and do so without haste or guilt, the quicker the bond breaks, the quicker the person is free to find someone that truly loves them, and the quicker you will be free to go to those who love you.

1. Depending on context. Some time ago, I used the term polygamy to mean either the generic concept of polygamous marriage or a MM+FF+ -type marriage or poly-committed relationship. ↩

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