the Survivalist* Democrat?

You would be all about families and raising healthy, happy children, more or less. Of course, that doesn’t sum you up entirely, but you do like your family affairs and keeping in touch with friends and relatives and like to keep everyone in a good mood.

You can sometimes be a bit one-eyed about your pursuit of keeping your family together and thawing other people’s enthusiasm to be different and “to try too hard.” You have probably already been through a phase (either in this lifetime or a previous one) when you tried hard to impress people. You were running in a rat race to try and get approval for all kinds of achievements, and you found that the people who got impressed weren’t worth impressing. You would be right, too, you were trying to impress the Boss type, and they’re never happy; they just see how much further you will go in your bid to kiss their ass.

Now, the Idealists* do not care rats ass about the Boss’s opinion, but they do care about your opinion, and that makes them vulnerable to your control, even if it is not intended as control. When you are trying to tell the Idealists* not to try so hard, you are thinking about the Boss. Still, they are thinking about themselves and other the Idealists*, to whom driving themselves higher, harder, and stronger to greater achievements is not a bid to impress anyone; it is their way of making life matter to them. They want to leave this world a better place than it was when they found it, and that is not because they feel like they should; it is because they feel like they can and want to. They want to because they can. To them, you asking them to tone things down is like asking a fire not to burn. They will try not to burn, but it makes them profoundly unhappy that you do not like their glow and their warmth… And that is what you need to understand: they want you to love them for who they are (a fire) rather than trying to make them into who you are, as they see your attempt to stop them from trying to impress the wrong people.

That is it. Perhaps the only thing you need to learn is how to deal with and get along with the Idealists* and maybe how to live a little. You tend to be a little boring. You like to play things safe, and that’s fine, obviously. It’s just that you might want to try something nice for yourself sometimes. That’s the kind of thing you struggle with.

Also, you have to stop worrying about your grown-up children. I will help you do that… My mother is your thinker type, so I know full well how difficult things can be between the Survivalist*thinker-democrat parent and a Idealists* child. I will also help you identify the moments when you spin back into the darkness of the Boss -modalities and why, when you feel like you’re losing the grip of your loved ones and you have to force them back into fold… as in, safety. That can sometimes go seriously bad with the Democrats. You fear for other people’s safety so much that you would rather see them die in your protective arms than live a happy life with a risk of getting slightly hurt somewhere else. That is, sometimes, enough to turn your relationships truly toxic, but it is not because of your selfishness but your inability to understand a different way of living and thinking.

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